Allinall
I thought your insight was very good. We are not to leave for any reason even abuse. But those are very tough shoes to walk in. I would consider such a woman a saint. If I had to counsel on the subject I would say stay, our time on this earth is very short but our life with the Lord never ends. I hope I never have to tell someone that and if it was one of my daughters I doubt if I would.
With out a doubt, if we are saved ALL of our sins are forgiven.
Heidi
I would add to what you accurately pointed out,
the spirit helps them learn how to love each other.
When we become saved It is because God has given us a new heart.
Ezekiel 11:19 And I will give them one heart, and I will put a new spirit within you; and I will take the stony heart out of their flesh, and will give them an heart of flesh:
This is the action that saves us, also known as being born again. We are completely different. The result of this action done by God is in the next verse.
Ezekiel 11:20 That they may walk in my statutes, and keep mine ordinances, and do them: and they shall be my people, and I will be their God.
We keep Gods laws and commandments, not perfectly, we still have a body of flesh, that has not been changed yet. We get a new body when the Lord returns.
Because salvation is dependent on Gods work we can test our salvation to see if the work was done.
1 John 2:3 And hereby
we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments.
1 John 2:4 He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
1 John 2:5 But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.
1 John 2:6 He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.
These verses do not stand alone we have to look at them in the light of Romans 7:
Romans 7:22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:
Romans 7:23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
Romans 7:24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?
Romans 7:25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.
As Paul says when we are saved we delight in Gods law. A believer finds no happiness in sin. Short term, yes. Long term, no. We cannot stay in sin. I tried.
A few years after my divorce some friends of mine divorced. The husband made it clear he was out. In caring for this friend who was hurt we became attached, I had forgotten how much I missed companionship. We dated for about a year, I cared very much for her but always I knew it was sin. It ate at me and ate at me until we called it off. I could not continue in the sin. It has been about three years now, I sometimes wish I had that companionship. But I know for a certainty that I will never be with another woman again. The burden is too great.