Submitting to Husbands

[ForHisGlory]

I agree with that, Texasgrandma,

In our marraige we also discuss when big decisions have to be made. On most issues we agree, but if we don't we ask help from people we know have had the same problem, and then we go to God. We have made mistakes, we have both been wrong, but that is ok, since we learn as we go along.

One question though:

Husbands should love their wives so that they could submit easier.
Wives should submit to their husbands so that they could love them easier.

Which do you think should come first?

[Trust]

Submitting is simply being open to receive.  Not so much getting bossed around.  The Godliness of it all and what is demanded and what is expected is all depending on what a person's idea of submission is all about.  Some people just hear the word, "Submit" and they hear, "Get bossed around"  Submitting and getting bossed around are two totally different entities.  Submitting is really being open to receive.  "Wives, be open to receive from your husbands."  He is supposed to be taking care of you as he is supposed to be taking care of himself.  He may need to guide you in order to take the maximum amount of care of you.  Be open to receive instruction, be open to receive guidance, be open to recieve . . . all the good things a man can offer you.

God Loves

Trust

[TalkerCat]

My husband is a nonbeliever, in fact he can often be heard cursing the christians.... that being said, I still feel because I'M A CHRISTIAN WOMAN that I should be submissive to him.  He has the final say-so in the decision making.

I try to live my life as a gracious, loving wife so that by my example he might turn to Jesus.... but it's not up to me to save him - I can only pray.

Blessings -

[BUTCHA]

god bless you and keep praying

[HisJoy!]

Hi,
re: submitting to Husbands.  When you have a husband and you love him you will work it out where you don't
feel you are really submitting, you just love him. It doesn't mean you give up everything. Yes, he is the leader of the household, but he is not to abuse leadership, but then you are his helpmate. You make decisions together. It is a good thing when you have a husband and you connect and love him for it. I hope this makes sense but don't think to much about submitting yet if you do not have a boyfriend.  God will make you and him ready for each other. 
bless you,
His JOY!

[David_james]

If I had a girlfriend I would do almost anything for her and let her do anything she wants. Women are more precious than diamonds. I do have a online friend that I love very much.

[bart76bythebook]

It's not just about finding the right guy it's about you seeing your role and wanting to play it.
When asked by a woman if I think she should get married I always ask the woman can you call him lord as Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord? A wife is told to respect her husband and thats a one time decision. A husband is told to love his wife. A man is told to to give himself up for his wife and that is his choice to do that. A woman is given the choice to submit herself to her husband and that is her choice. Titus 2 says that the word of God is dishonored when a wife does not submit herself to her husband. Neither husband or wife should force there will on the other but it should be recognized that a husband has authority over his wife as Christ has authority over the church. A lot of times as a woman you are going to have the urge to correct your husband and that is not your place to do in public. You should have a man who wants you to come to him who is going to ask you what can i give you how can i serve you but if you don't have that guy divorce isn't an option if you are both christian. It's grace and love and mercy it's acknowledging God with our own actions and thoughts who we are it's not the other person it is always us. Who is stronger in faith bare with those who are weak. We are called to service. 1 Peter 2 talks about submitting even to cruel masters. It's not man we serve it is God. Let your light be seen

[TMC]

I agree with you that submitting is not always easy, and it doesn't seem fair. But, I look at it this way. If your hubby makes a decision and you don't agree with it, and you cannot come to a compromise, go with his decision. If he is right, you both benefit. If he is wrong, at least it cannot be blamed on you.
I have been married for 27 years, and so far its been working.

[airIam2worship]

I agree with you that submitting is not always easy, and it doesn't seem fair. But, I look at it this way. If your hubby makes a decision and you don't agree with it, and you cannot come to a compromise, go with his decision. If he is right, you both benefit. If he is wrong, at least it cannot be blamed on you.
I have been married for 27 years, and so far its been working.

Amen TMC, and please allow me to welcome you to CU, I hope you enjoy your visits with us. 

[barelahh]

Why would anyone marry, or even stay married to someone that doesn't love them?  submission is a act of love.  Being the authority requires a act of love also. But most importantly this idea that the guy can just override the wife isn't even biblical. 
if the wife and husband can't come to a happy medium in a problem, then as the priest of the household he is required to take it to God and let him decide.
God will open the right door in the decision. 

i went through two loveless marraiges and the one thing i learned is that without love a marraige isn't going to last or work, and you can't create love that isn't there to begin with.   That happens when you find the one God made for you.

[grace03]

I THINK SUBMITTING TO YOUR HUSBAND IS WHAT GOD WANTS FROM US AS WIFES,
BUT IT GOES BOTH WAYS , AND I MAY BE WRONG , BUT WE JUST HAVE TO PRAY AND ASK GOD
WHAT HE WANTS FROM US

[HimAll4]

I agree with alot of what's been written here.  If God's Holy Word teaches none other than a woman is to submit to her husband in all things, then that is what she is to do!  And if the Bible also teaches we are to submit to each other as a body of believers, then go for it!
Submitting willingly is the issue.  We all want our own way, and selfishness is a very harmful thing.  Noone in leadership should be selfish, and noone following their lead should be selfish.

I, myself, have had the struggle of submission in an abusive situation, and I honestly believe God has set up the proper order for a reason.  If the husband is not leading the way God says he is supposed to, it puts the whole thing out of whack.  If there is abuse going on, then safety has to be considered.

If a woman is allowiing herself to be abused, then that is her choice, but when she allows children to be abused, then the blame for it must somewhat rest on her shoulders.  I know.

[gina]

i agree with submitting to your husbands, however what about a husband that doesn't want to be the head of the household.  and i am sorry for himall4 that you went thru in your past.  i am sorry you were abused and by the sounds of some of the things you have said to me that you have gotten yourself out of that situation.  the lord does want us to submit to our husbands, but when that husband is abusive, both physically and emotionally that is when we have to rethink the submissive part, because no one i mean no one deserves to be abused.  i pray for those who are in those situations and don't know how to get out of them.  so i am thankful that you have gotten out.

gina