New and need to talk

[jlocklin]

Prasie the lord sister's  I am new at this so please bear with me. I am 47, and on my second marrys.  I truly love this man because one we went to high school together. Stay friends all thought our adult life got together again. After both having childrens and divorces we got together got marry in 2003.  BUT! this is the deal my husdand is in jail this is his third time    He was in jail when I move here, (Texas) so I need what the story was.  I came here as a Christian (don't worry I still am   .)  Lovely the LORD more and more everyday.  I know we rush in getting married but I am paying for that mistakes.  After being marry for not ever a year he ends up back in jail.  He has a drug problem very bad.  As I stated at the because I love this man because I two once a drug user, but by the grace of God he saves me and clean me up.  My husband is a good man just need helps and to get a REAL relateonship with God.  He is a smart, good and knows God, but no real walk.  Again just want to talk pray that someone will respond.  Thank you and God Bless.  

[M]

If you would like for people to pray for you and your husband, please put in a prayer request.  I will pray for your family.

There may be some support groups that you can join for families of prisoners and Al Anon.

[stillonmilk]

I feel for you sister. I to use to do drugs on occasion before the Lord freed me from that addiction. I had to come to the point where I really wanted God to take it from me so badly,
I fasted and prayed and God heard my cry and gave me the strength to quit. Praise God.
I think its all a matter of timeing, God has his time, and we have ours, some people just have to hit bottom before they want to change bad enough to seek the help that only God can give.
Our prayers do not go unheard, I would get as many people as you know to pray for your husbands eyes to be opened to what this addiction has done to him and his family, so that he will repent and seek God in a new and stronger way, and will change his addittion to drugs for an addiction to God.
Maybe you can get a pastor to visit him and talk with him while hes in jail, and maybe do a bible study with him to bring him closer to the truth, and change his heart.
Ive heard many testimonys of God freeing people from addiction, but it will take willingness and want on your husbands part for God to work in him.
With God, all things are possible. Dont give up, give it to God.
Bless you, I will pray for you. Hang in there sister!

[jlocklin]

Praise the lord stillonmilk:  Thank you for the kinds words.  I had to wipe the tears for my eyes reading your note.  I am visting my husband this week end I just pray I can get thought it without being upset.  I still somethime feel the hurt of him not being here.  Thank you for your prayer and again nice words

[peh]

jlockin, I like that you said you know you got married too fast, and are paying for it with the consequences you mentioned.   It took me a very long time after becoming a Christian to really clamp down that it is MY FAULT that certain things happened in my life and that the consequences were my own making.   Since you said you are new, I believe the Lord is dealing with you extra fast, at least compared to the way I grew.  

Let me tell you, I've now been a Christian for over 32 years, and I've learned a few things.   One is that "this too shall pass".   This is a stage in your growth and one that will make you closer to the Lord if you go thru it calling on Him and waiting on His help.  

Romans 10:13 will be important for you:   Realize it is an open-ended statement.   You can ask "saved from what?" and fill in the blank yourself.   The answer is, of course, anything and everything, including your and your husband's bad choices.  The Lord doesn't always deliver us from consequences but He will always be with us in them if we call on Him, leaning on Him in all things and at all times.  

I don't know what part of the world you are in, but try to find a church which has as at least part of its membership other ex-this and thats, ones that can relate to yours and your husband's past.

I personally found that to be a challenge in my younger years, as I too came into Christianity with a lurid past haunting me, drug use, immorality as a life-style, prison, etc.

However, there are churches, like Victory Outreach and Set Free on the west coast, which have as their membership just "our kind" .   I found early on that those who have been delivered from deep sin are among the most humble, non-judgmental and wise of His servants.  This is important when we are trying to fit in and find out what Christianity is all about.

Keep us informed here of your progress, and I am praying right now that you will be filled with a sense of His Presence and the power of His resurrection; that you will come to know what is the breadth and height and depth of His love towards us; how powerful His blood is in washing away our sin and shame; and how joyfully He has welcomed you and will welcome your husband into His Kingdom.

May the Lord make His face to shine on you, new one.  May His love warm your heart and soul.

[shundam79]

My sister, this is not a situation for you to worry about.  If your husband loves the Lord and yet makes mistakes we must remember that everything works for the good of everyone who loves God.  I am only 26 and I have never been married.  My last failed relationship was 4 years ago.  Not only do i have a testimony, but I have a bit of wisdom.  Feverent prayer will change any and everything that your heart desiress.  God said ask and it shall be given unto you.  He didn't say this because he wants to boast of His works, for His works boast of Him in themselves, Jesus said this because He loves you so much that He has to give it to you to satisfy not only Himself but also the Father.  Get you some prayer warriors.  Someone who will call you and as soon as you say hello they start praying.  Remember oft times in the Bible they called for the weeping and wailing women so that God will answer prayers.  Look at the brighter side of your husband's incarceration....this is the time when he can continually pray without distraction, without meaningless interaction, and complete concentration.....If you need a prayer warrior, a scripture finder, or just someone to talk to...I'm here.

[debbiebacker]

I've been a chirstian for five years and excepted the Lord as my Savior  .  I've also been married before and so has my husband and we both have children from our other marriages. I know what you are going through with your husband because my husband and me have been throught it about seven years ago and we are both clean now. It is a very tough thing to go through and I will keep you and your husband in my prayers and hope everything turns out okay.

God Bless,
Debbie