Help........What should I do?

[Jesusinme]

Hi All,
   I have a situation here that I am desparate about.
My Brother is not saved. He is a marajuana addict with severe emotional disabilities. He refuses to even consider his addiction is a problem. worse still he is not able to grasp the concept of God. I have prayed  that the Lord will reach him at his level, and in turn the enemy has sent forces in his path. He is convinced he is a homosexual, but has had conversations with my husband and I about the possibility that because the way he grew up he is the way he is. We were molested as children. My brother by far the worst. he was tied up and raped at 4 years old(he now has an obsession with knots. Phone cords, socks, anything when he is nervous he ties knots) and was put in a special school for boys where sexual predators were and are still very prevalent. so He was further abused and he in turn went after younger boys within the school. now he is 31 years old and since I have been praying for him the enemy has sent a heroin addict with "Gay" friends into his life. I prayed against that and she basically faded out w/o ever introducing him to her friends. I praise God for that. Now he has been asked to babysit a 2 year old boy. I am concerned that he may himself molest this baby. I don't think he is even aware of this possibility. He loves babies and I am concerned that this could be a stumbling block for him. I don't know what to do. what is my obligation here. With just a speculation I could ruin his life by telling anyone. It's like saying well this guy could murder or steal when In fact I don't know. we are all tempted in one way or another. Is it fair to assume that he will be a repeat offender? I will pray of course against this  We had noone in our lives to pray for us as we were assaulted. Is that where I should leave it ?or is more required of me?Please agree in Prayer with me against this horrible curse.any advice would be greatly appreciated

[Jesusinme]

I just want to say that GOD IS GREAT! Prayer is definately all that is required. I never had to say anything. The woman never called my brother about the job! I asked the Lord to please  handle it and he did. I am Praising God. Thank you for agreeing in Prayer with me.

[Lionroar0]

Keep praying for him. God will anwer your prayer. It is evidient that he needs healing and God will provide for him in all his needs.  Just a suggestion. Start a prayer request. IN the preyaer request thread if you haven't done sone already

[Jesusinme]

Thank You Lionroar0!  

[Reba]

Please tell the parents of the toddler. Or stop him from babysetting some how.


And DITTOS to  Lionroar!

[Willowbirch]

  You and your family need much, much prayer - it would be wonderful if your brother could see a counselor, though he might not agree to go. This kind of pain in his past could certainly affect his future, especially around children. You said:

we are all tempted in one way or another. Is it fair to assume that he will be a repeat offender?

Yes!! You have said that your brother refuses to have God in his life. God frees us from the bondage of sin; while we still fail as Christians, we are no longer under the power of sin. We are free; we do not, by our nature, have to sin any longer. We can choose. Your brother is still under the power of sin! He does not have the strength of Christ nor the freedom of Salvation to help him make the right decisions. He has been shamefully abused, and if others have treated him that way, he may see no reason to not hurt someone else.

Lord, you know this man, and how he has been abused; work in his heart, and bring him to You, since no one else can heal him and make his pain into something good. His whole family has been hurt, and I pray that You would keep them in Your hands; through Your great power, and the testimony of Jesusinme, bring salvation to the ones who do not know You.

[Jesusinme]

Thank You so much for your posts, I want to let you all know that the woman that had asked my brother to babysit, has never called back! I continue to pray for his healing and salvation. Thank you for your prayers in this situation. God just keeps removing the stumbling blocks!

[archangel]

Dearest JesusinMe,
    My heart breaks knowing the suffering that you and your brother have shared.  Your concern and love for him will not be ignored if you stay in prayer and ask our Father for His help, love and guidence.  Just keep in mind that you cannot rescue or save your brother.  God wants you to love him and witness to him and show him compassion but you are not his savior.  Don't try to take that responsibility on yourself.  I suffered through years of heartbreak with my only sister who was an alcoholic.  I tortured myself with guilt for every good thing I had in my life because she did not have those things.  I felt that I had to save her and that it was my God given duty to make any sacrifice necessary to save her from her addiction.  I gave up friends, used up my savings and nearly lost my husband trying to save her, only to finally come to the realization that it was not my place to play God in her life.  Of course I still tried to keep her as safe as possible but when I finally learned to get in God's will and out of His way, we both were healthier.  Your brother needs serious help and may never seek it on his own, but you can seek counseling to help you deal with your side of this relationship.  Just be sure any counseling you get is Christ centered and you do have an obligation to do what is reasonable to protect anyone else from harm that your brother might inflict.  Seek the help of professionals if possible.  My prayers will be with you and your brother.  Take heart in small improvements in the situation and be patient as God answers prayer in His time and in His way.