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Hello Dear Brothers and Sisters - I wish I could say that I was doing well, but I'm not.

Most of you know that I'm married to a nonbeliever.  Well, what I haven't admitted to is his cruelty, and Christmas was a hum dinger!  My husband has always called me filthy names and he's notorious for blaming me for his problems, but this time he got angry over a trivial occurance and left the house.  I don't know where he is.  When he left he took the phones so I can't call for help if I need it.... I'm physically vulnerable because I'm disabled and can't even LEAVE my house and go to a neighbor because I don't have a ramp to go over the curb! He rifled through my purse and took my ATM card and cell phone.  He told me that I have to move out of the house.  I don't know where to go.  I'm not a senior citizen yet, so I don't qualify for the senior housing.  I don't have children so I don't qualify for "Section 8".  My disability check will not cover rent on a place large enough to accomodate my (motorized) wheelchair.  I have an appointment tomorrow with a vascular surgeon; I'm consulting with him about the amputation of my other leg.  I'm so scared I can't stand it!  I'm having a hard time handing this over to God and not worrying.  I feel abandoned and lonely.

I'm asking you, my christian brothers and sisters to pray for me because I am unable to pray for myself right now.  My heart has been shattered and I don't have the strength to appeal to God, even though I know that's what I should do.  

Thank you all in advance

Blessings -

Hello Sister Terri,

I'm very sorry to hear that you are having this kind of trouble, and I will definitely be praying for you.

You probably remember that I'm a retired police officer. A temporary solution might be a women's shelter in your area. I don't think you've ever said anything about physical abuse, but it sounds like things have gotten pretty close to that. It's just an idea that you call your local police and find out. The typical shelter has all kinds of resources. Even if there isn't a shelter close, your local police department will have a directory of all kinds of services available in your area. I'm reasonably sure that they can help you with a temporary solution and probably connect you with the right people for a more permanent solution.

For the immediate communications problem, nearly all police agencies have email, and they read them pretty quickly, especially if you email their dispatch facility. If email isn't an option, you should probably try to get the attention of one of your neighbors. If you are hurt or have an immediate need, you can also send me a personal mail or email, and I'll make the calls for you from my home. My email address is:

blkidps@sirinet.net

I will try to watch my mail very closely until I know that you are OK. Please do let me know, and I will do the best I can to help you.

I'm sending this to you by PM also so that you will get it in your email. In the meantime, I will be praying for you. AND:

KEEP LOOKING UP!


Love in Christ,
Tom

Psalms 105:3-4 NASB  Glory in His holy name; Let the heart of those who seek the LORD be glad.  Seek the LORD and His strength; Seek His face continually.

Sister, Terri,

I am praying for you. You also have a PM coming.
Bob

Sister Terri,

My prayers are with you also.

I will be praying for you also sister.

Terri, I am praying for you. Remember with God all things are possible. Please consider Brother Tom's offer, you will get help. and please contact your bank as soon as possible and contact the Social Security office. You might need to have your check mailed elsewhere or open a new account to protect your income. Do you have the phone number to a neighbor or a family member that you can contact? I know you said he took the phones, but if you do, I can call someone for you to come and help you. In any case I think that the police would be able to help you as well. We are all here for you. Anything we can do for you we will gladly do. Just say the word.

I'm so very grateful that God lead me to this site.  All the love is pouriing over and I feel so much support.

Since last night, a neighbor has loaned me her cell phone.  She came over to drop off Christmas cookies and found out I needed a phone.  I called my mom and she spent the night with me and took me to the doctor today.  When I got back from the doctor, Bill was here.  He was remorseful (he always is) but I told him that I would feel better if he'd stay with a friend for a few days while I sort things out.  In the meantime I'm taking BEP's and Sister Maria's advice; I'm going to contact the sheriff's office just to let them know that I'm disabled and in an abusive relationship.  I'm going to contact Social Security and have my checks mailed instead of auto-deposited, that way I won't be broke if/when he does this again.  I'm going to have an account seperate from his.  I have contacted the landlord and he's putting my name on the lease too so Bill can't kick me out AND I've already alerted my neighbor of the verbal abuse so we agreed that she'll keep a watch out and any time my truck is not in the carport after 11:00 pm, she's going to come over and check on me.....

I feel a lot more in control!  And in the immortal words of Gloria Gaynor: I WILL SURVIVE!  And I will keep you all posted on what's going on - you're stuck with me now!

Praise God for the help sister. If there is anything at all that we can do for you just let us know.



A pleasure for sure.

Terri what a relief to hear from you, please make sure that you will be able to get to the mailbox to get your checks, and call them before the 15th of the month in order for any changes to take place on the following check. Report your ATM card lost or stolen. And please be careful and stay in prayer. I am going to PM you, be on the look out.

Please put your plans into action quickly. Move on them while your not in a totally emotional upheavel.

Most of us here have heard the joke of the guy waiting on the roof top for God to rescue him fromt hbe flood waters..

He told the sharreffs he would be fine... he was waiting on the Lord

He told the guys in the row boat ....he was waiting on the Lord

 He told the helocopter folks ....he was waiting on the Lord..


The he met St Peter and Peter asked him why he had not used the rescusers God had sent

Blackeyedpeas knows what he is talking about do WHAT EVER you must to keep your self safe.

Prayer  is often answered via practical means.

Sister Terri,

YEAH!!! - Praise GOD!!! - Things already sound a lot better. I'm extremely happy that you know now that you always have options and alternatives.

We will continue to pray for you. Most Christians would tell you to try and make things work with your husband, and that would probably involve Christian counseling. However, there is a circumstance here that really bothers me - him intentionally leaving you without communications for however long that was. Sister, I know this is your business and you will make all the decisions, but I don't think that you should ever put up with anything like this again. It's not right and it's not safe. I know that GOD will always be with you, and I hope this will be a matter of prayer for you to let the LORD lead and guide you about what to do.

In the meantime, we will continue praying for you. We will also love you in Christ and treasure your friendship and fellowship.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Psalms 18:30-31 NASB  As for God, His way is blameless; The word of the LORD is tried; He is a shield to all who take refuge in Him. For who is God, but the LORD? And who is a rock, except our God,

My own pastor contacted me awhile ago - he said there are single ladies in the church that may need a roommate and my mailman attends my church; he offered to bring my mail to the door instead of me trying to make it to the mailbox.

Now is God at work, or what?  :D

Blessings -

For eternity!! ;D ;D ;D

Amen Sister, He is at that.

There ya go sister God is in control.. get all the help you can get until you are able to fend for yourself. Maybe it would be a good idea if you had a roommate.

Yes that is God at work, sister. ;D  I will keep you in my prayers. If you need anything, PM me.

AMEN!!
I haven't though of Gloria Gaynor, in a very long time. :(  

Resting in the hands, of the Lord.
Bob

John 21:22 Jesus said to him, If I want him to stay (survive, live) until I come, what is that to you? [What concern is it of yours?] You follow Me!

 :)

I am so sorry TalkerCat, I will pray that the Lord will give you that you need.


Battle Maiden

Sister Terri,

I am very happy to hear about the recent developments. YES, we serve an AWESOME GOD. I think that many times the only real answers are when we place our burdens at the feet of JESUS and simply pray. But also remember that we are all here together as Brothers and Sisters in Christ. We all have JESUS but we also have each other. The biggest GIFT we can give each other is prayer, but our fellowship also involves care and concern. Many of us have strange schedules or sleeping problems, so a PM to several of us would almost always mean it would be read 24/7, and we would do whatever we could to help.

BUT, I'm also happy and give thanks that you have others who live close to you who care and will help. GOD works things out in wonderful ways.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Philippians 2:1-2 NASB  Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.

Sister Terri

I'll also be praying for you and Praise God, it already seems that God is working in your situation. I sometimes underestimate the power of prayer and so its great to read something like this and be reminded how powerful prayer is and how it can be answered so quickly.

I visit a number of forums, yet this one seems diffrent. The love that is here can be seen in the posts and in the friendships and i am so happy the Lord led me here. I may not post much but i read a lot. Blessings to all my family here at CU.

Hi Joey, glad to see you and thanks for your prayers.  I too, believe in it.  I hope you're welll  How's your puppy?  Please post more often so we can get to know you better.

Blessings -

That's awesome about the mail man. I will be praying for you. Thanks for your email by the way :) Talk to you later!

Thanks TalkerCat. As i become braver, i'll try and post more often. I'm not very good with words... As for my puppy, he's growing real fast. I actually posted a new photo of him on the pets section the other day, if you haven't seen it yet.

Hello Brother Joey,

I think you are very good with words, especially thoughts that are from a loving, Christian heart. Sweet Christians like you and many others are the basis for our fellowship. I simply give thanks that God allows us to enjoy each other's company.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Psalms 18:2 NASB  The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.

Dearest Brothers and Sisters,

Bill called today asking when he can come home.  I told him to stay away until after next week.  I'm going to the bank and to the Social Security office on Tuesday to straighten out my finances and I'm securing a cell phone in my name only.  Then I'll let him come back.  My pastor has offered counseling, but that is up to Bill.  Being that he's a nonbeliever I doubt that he accepts it (he doesn't want to hear about 'no religion'!).  Either way, an incident like this will NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN in that I'm prepared!  I'm not worried about this facade of a marriage - I have overwhelming health issues to concern myself with.

I want to thank everyone again for your support!  I know there is power in prayer and you came through for me like the soldiers of the Lord that you are!  I love you all and will keep you updated on the "Bill" situation.  And of course I'm still posting here and there.

Blessings -

I will keep praying for you, sister Terri.

Thats great news sister in that your wellbeing is covered. I will still be praying for both you and Bill.

Terri, that is great news, but don't give up on Bill just yet. I know you have your health to worry about, but God is so amazing, tha he might have touched B9ill's heart and he might be ready to get some Christian counseling. Always keep good things in your thoughts and prayers, don't give up on him yet.
I am praying for both of you. And I am very happy to see that you are getting it all together.  :D

Hi Everyone,

I wish I could say that things were perfect; but they are much better.  On Tuesday I'm taking care of my Social Security and my bank account to make sure that Bill can't wipe me out.  I'll just start a seperate account in my name only.  The cell phone was easy to get, I took care of that already.  And I still have to talk to the landlord about adding my name to the lease. Now all I have to do is decide if I want a roommate, or if Bill's going to come back.  I know it sounds crazy, but Bill is just as nice as he is nasty!  I don't mind him so much when he's nice.  But when he's NASTY - there is hell to pay (as most of you know from my experience at Christmas).

What's most important is that God came through !  :D .  There is power in prayer!  And there is a lot of love at this forum.   :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Sister Terri, I will keep praying for you. Please keep us updated on this. I am also praying that Bill comes to God.

Resting in the warm embrace of the Lord.
Bob

1 Kings 1:1 AND KING David was old and advanced in years; they covered him with [bed]clothes, but he could not get warm.

Amen Sister Terri, there is power in prayer and I will continue praying for you and Bill.

Terri I am so happy for you. As for Bill, you have to pray a lot. Follow the promptings of the Holy Spirit. You are both in my prayers.

Sister Terri,


I hope that you are doing fine and am still praying for you.

Sister Terri,
I hope that you are doing fine, I am still praying for you & Bill.

Terri, we miss you  :'(
Please let us know how you are doing.

 :)


I am praying for you.


Battle Maiden.