Part II - Do you have a broken heart and struggle?

Part II - Broken Heart

False Accusations – Is being falsely accused by someone else about you.

Sometimes it is because of jealousy, sometimes it is just enjoying seeing one put down; other times ignorant gossip. Many false accusations have no affect upon us, but then there comes one that is “a bit close to the bone.” It is directed at a loved one, or yourself, or your ministry. If we don’t see those false accusations as being what they are – false! – We can take the accusation “on board” and it lodges in our spirit. We get wounded. This is where honesty is so important. We have to be honest with God, ourselves, and other people. If the accusation is false, keep it false. Don’t give room for the enemy to “take us out” because we re-act wrongly. (If the accusation happens to be true, then we need to do something about it).

Divorce - This is another “biggie,” especially as it is so rampant in society today.

To experience going from one extreme of being so in love with someone that you marry that person, and then to see it all change to the point where they can no longer love and live together, is a great tragedy. It affects the emotions, afflicts the mind, throws the children into turmoil, upsets the wider family and relatives, and changes the course of one’s life. Rejection can become a huge issue. Many hurts are picked up. Attitudes are hardened. Later on, if those wounding are not dealt with and healed, the “baggage” from the broken marriage is carried over to a new relationship. Often the process repeats itself. More hurts and wounding eventuate.
Rejection/Abandonment – Some children have had extreme rejection or abandonment from parents because of an unwanted pregnancy or born at an inconvenient time.

Most people have deep fears of rejection and abandonment, as well as of domination and engulfment. These fears stem from childhood experiences and from defining our worth externally through others’ approval, rather than internally through spiritual eyes of truth. We will be unable to share our love to the fullest extent until we heal these fears of loss of other and of loss of self. We will be unable to create the safe relationship space in which to share love, and a safe world in which to live, until we learn how to create safety within.

Trauma – A reaction to trauma is the person's tendency to identify himself / herself to a victim.

Again there are different types of trauma. Trauma can happen through natural disaster, war, attack, sexual abuse, physical violence, abandonment from the family, living alone in the streets at a young age....etc.), the main characteristic is the person’s impossibility to face the experience. Such a reaction reinforces the traumatic effect on the child's personality: decrease of self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image, these children do not trust in their inner strengths to deal with life experiences any more, and they are feeling deep mistrust towards environment and future, they are suffering from feelings of helplessness and inner insecurity. Identifying themselves to victims increase these troubles, like a "confirmation" of the children's helplessness and incapacity to face experiences and stimulations coming from environment.
Conditional Love – conditional love can cause a broken heart.

Love IS the lifeblood of our spirit. The human heart is the place where God should reside and manifest His love. Man's spirit body should vibrate in oneness with the love of God, directing the actions of our physical body.

Conditional love, or loving “if,” is based on someone acting a certain way. In other words, someone who loves with conditions will love a person only if he or she behaves a certain way or lives his or her life in a manner pleasing to the other person. A person who grew up with conditional love will have a hard time accepting God’s love freely. They will be performance driven to earn God’s love.

Sin - Sin is the curse of humanity! Sin is whatever comes between us and God! It affects our spirit! In Psalm 38 we read of David acknowledging a wounding in his life and spirit:
•   “Your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down upon me . . . there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear. My wounds fester and are loathsome because of my sinful folly . . . ” (Psalm 38:1-5, NIV).

David was hurting because of his guilt and consciousness of sin.

•   “For your sin is an incurable bruise, a terrible wound. There is no one to help you or to bind up your wound and no medicine does any good. All your lovers have left you and don’t care anything about you any more; for I have wounded you cruelly, as though I were your enemy; mercilessly, as though I were an implacable foe; for your sins are so many, your guilt is so great” (Jeremiah 30:12-14, TLB).

If a person does not receive the Love that God created us to receive, whether settle or bruttle, a person will stop loving or never learn to love themselves at all. The area of self-hatred is the most obscure and most difficult part of the great commandment. Matthew 22:37-39 “37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” How can you love the Lord with all your heart when you don’t have all your heart or love your neighbors or yourself if you have a broken heart!

Having a broken heart will separate you in all or one of these areas which causes problems in your spiritual walk. These areas are areas of unforgiveness/bitterness. Not able to forgive others, God, or yourself. That’s why the Lord gave us Matthew 22:37-39 which deals with these three areas.

a. Others
b. God
c. Self

God is serious of you loving you as He is serious of you loving Him. He made you in his image. You are joint heirs with Christ. If you don’t love yourself, then you are in self hatred. That means you are despising God’s creation of you! That is sin and you need to repent of it!

When we have separation in any of these areas, then it affects you in six areas: mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally, and financially.

A person with a broken heart struggles in discerning the voice of God. They usually are not hearing the acceptance. They are hearing less than and shame and fear, self criticism, judgment, self judgment, self condemnation, etc. It sounds like their own. Why, either God is going to talk to your spirit or satan is going to talk to your spirit 24/7. There are only two kingdoms out there. When we agree with the voice of the enemy over and over then a stronghold is formed that we believe is true. Example, the enemy tells you that you committed a sin that God will not forgive and you feel rejected by God. You begin to believe and live out what you believe. Prov. 23:7 “7For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

A person with a broken heart, loose sight and never come to understand their identity in Christ. When we have a broken heart, you don’t believe the promises. You will have a hard time believing it. Why, because your heart is like a bucket with holes in it. This insures our brokenness continues because we become overcome, rejection, abandonment, fear, shame, guilt, etc. The nightmares usually progresses often bringing diseases with it because the person with a broken heart get caught up on the performance wheel - performance, perfection, doing, trying, perfecting. You will madly strive to prove to the world and to yourself that you have value or worth. Or just shut down and live in a silent merciless hell of isolation or a little of both.

The Lord became a curse for us. He gave us the tools to recognize, to discern the voice, reject it, and cast out vain imaginations.

Remember what Paul taught us:

2 Corinthians 10 (KJV)
•   For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)
•   Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Focusing on God’s truth and denying Satan’s lies is therefore not simply a "reprogamming" of our minds, nor is it a failure to deal with the deepest sinful power of the flesh. It is, in fact, God’s way in which the underlying power of sin is overcome by the power and life of God.

What must I do to cooperate to with the Lord to bring healing to our hearts? How can you trust the Lord when you have a broken heart and you have a breach in love and you can say all the scriptures of promises but you will not be able to truly believe it?

The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way. As Jesus said in Luke 4:18-19, Jesus quotes Isaiah, "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he has sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to …

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