My 18 Year old brother

[Phenolics]

Well where should i start... My brother is having trouble understanding that it is not okay to spend the night over at his girlfriend's house. He still lives under the roof of my parent's hosue and chose to disobey that order when we left for a movie and he decided to stay home. We came home to find a note on the door and him gone....he is speding the night at her house. What is even worse is that the girlfriend sees no problem or issue with it either and chooses to go against what my parents say as well. This is the second time my parents have trouble with both my brother and his girlfriend. It hurts my mother deeply and causes much distress. He says he believes in God but doesn't believe a lot of the things in the bible. Please be praying for him, his name is Daniel.

HIS,
Gabe

[Symphony]

Thank you, Gabe/Phenolics, will be praying about your brother, Daniel.

It's certainly dangerous - you're definitely right to be concerned.  At eighteen the young man is already with a mind of his own, and now he's playing with fire - unwed pregnancy or other familial complications.  The girl will hold him responsible, and he doesn't even know it, or suspect it.  He's a young man, now.  But he doesn't know it, yet.

All the Pandora's Box we each open for ourselves.  It has certainly happened in my own family.  And once opened, you can't get them back in the box the way they neatly were just moments before.  Curiosity killed the cat.  *sigh*

So your new 'journey' has begun, in your own relationship with your brother, and how to navigate that upcoming difficult storm, in whatever form it should take.  Disobedience and Satan seems to raise his ugly head in even the 'best' of families - and all of a sudden, there he is.

Hm, well, we definitely have to take our daily walk with Jesus just as that - just daily, just moment by moment, in our relations with others.  It's not easy.

[felix102]

Praying for your brother.

I know your family's concern for your brother's sexual abstinence. Your brother may not know it...but its real important that he doenst engage in any sexual activities. Other than serious consequences that will forever change his life (an unwed pregancy or possibly STD), it will also have spiritual consequences. Even if he practiced "safe" sex (can never be absolutely safe) there are still consequences that he does not know.

Also God says "honor your mother and father, so that it will go well with you on earth." It is important for us to take heed of our parents' commands. It is very dishonorable to directly disregard a parent's concern. Whether your brother doesn't believe certain things in the bible, this is true. If he believes God, then he must also know that God would not be happy with his actions. For directly disobeying his parents and (we hope not) engage in any sexual activity with his girlfriend.

It would be a very good idea for your parents to have a straightforward talk with your brother about whether he is abstaining from sex. It would also be a good idea for your parents to have a talk with the girlfriend's parents.


I know that your brother having sex is the primary concern. He should know that sex was designed by God to be reserved for marriage. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Do we not see what a baby is? From two people there is born one flesh. It is a symbol of these two people's union by flesh. This is what sex is; "The two will become one flesh". As the apostle paul says

"Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?...All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?"

When you have sex you unite your flesh. If your brother is to have sex with his girlfriend then he must have already been fully and spiritually commited to marrying her. This probably is not so, so your brother should take this warning.

[jive4005]

Lord, my prayer for this boy (surely not yet a man) is that You propel him towards a lifestyle in which You are the principle focus... where love rules the day, along with truth, mercy and sacrifice. Lord, do this for this lad. Raise him up to be a great and powerful man in You! In Jesus' name I petition You in this thing. Amen

[ivan]

some years  ago I was 18. I was fighting with God. No one could help me.
But God overpowered me.
So I pray. God take Daniel. Make he your son. In Jesus name amen.