I agree with Mr. BEP on the first two questions.
Do you think we're breeding a new, young subculture that is totally internet or media controlled, distinguished only by those who will learn how to manipulate the system, as opposed to most others who will know only how to submit to it?
Maybe I’m misreading the intent of your question, but this is how I see it. Historically (and hysterically) Christians fall into the group called ‘conservative’ – tending to oppose change, traditional in style, cautious. Computers have created rapid change.
In this case I think ‘controlled’ is a little strong – ‘heavily influenced’ definitely.
Let’s compare your question to the advent of the automobile. Certainly conservative Christians opposed it (just look at the Amish who still have not accepted automobiles). And, eventually there were some who may have been ‘controlled’ (wander-lust, etc.) but most just used it the way it was meant to be used – as a ‘tool’ of transportation (‘submitted’ to the system), and some ‘manipulated’ the system (I think this is where the “subculture” comes in) by building hot-rods, racing, becoming ‘used care salesmen’
and having a lifestyle totally dependent on automobiles.
Sure, computers can be dangerous for the kids – just as cars remain to be. That’s why we have legal controls including age limits, etc. for their safety.
You can take the example above and substitute television for automobiles.
I think the biggest problem lies is the extra burden it puts on us as parents – just what we needed – something else to have to protect our kids from. That’s why I moved the family computer to our dining room; so my daughter can be easily monitored while she is ‘surfing’. But to be completely honest, having the computer in the most public part of the house keeps me honest also – if I’m ever tempted to ‘surf’ where I shouldn’t, I’m also being watched.
If a child abuses the computer it should be unplugged (or as Mr. BEP said – install electronic controls that will limit surfing to specific sites).
One other thing – on a positive note – (at least for parents) the computer also gives us one more thing to use as leverage: “Young lady if you do that again you will be grounded for a month – and that includes grounded from the computer!” Hey – it’s worked for me.