I want a baby. Is it wrong?

[JACKIEOD]

I've known my husband since I was 14.  I'm 25 now and we have been married for three years.   We have such a wonderful marriage, I've been truly blessed with my husband.  I don't know where I would be if it wasn't for him.

About six months before the wedding, I tested positve for a rare gentic disease which is fatal.  But I will only become sick when I'm abiut 35 and it will take 15 years until the end.

I've made my peace with this and so has my husband.  We both want children.  I'm willing to adopt but my husband doesn't want to entertain that idea.  The chance of our child inheriting this gene is fifty fifty.


I'm worried about how the family is going to react to a pregnacy knowing about my illness.  Is it wrong to want a baby?

[Maryjane]

No..it is not wrong to want a baby..but..for now..you have to relax and enjoy your marriage for it can break when both of you begin to war over wanting a baby...Pray together and seek God's face together as you are one..Also..pray for your husband as it is hard on him than anyone else and with such a burden..it is hard to look beyond it to wanting a baby that he could experience the same as with you...but..in all things seek the Lord together as you will find wisdom and strength...

[Eva]

No..it is not wrong to want a baby
Pray together and seek God's face together as you are one...in all things seek the Lord together as you will find wisdom and strength...

I agree with MaryJane but wanted to add that with God nothing is impossible.  God can can heal you of your rare disease.  Should He chooses not to, you can still have however long sharing your love with a blessed child from God. 

Besides, we never know how many days we have here.  I could die today, but would have spent 8 happy years with my precious daughter.  God Bless you both.  I will pray for Gods perfect wisdom and knowledge regarding is situation.

Love in Christ, Eva

[JACKIEOD]

Thank you so much for your honest replies.  When I was diagnosed, it felt like my whole world was crumbling.  I tried to call off the wedding, because I felt that I couldn't do this to my husband.  My refused to let me go.  He stood by me, when no else did.  I can't believe that someone could love me that much. 

I come from an abusive background, so I was shocked that he stood by me through this.  Not even my mother did.

The only reason why I didn't kill myself, was because I didn't want to hurt him.

When I went to my priest for counselling, he asked me," Would I change anything about my life?"  I looked at my husband and said, " Not a thing!"

I really feel that I've given this to the Lord.  I  have such peace.

He will be a wonderful father one day!  He rubs my tummy as if we already have a baby!

I just don't want his family to be upset. I hope that they don't think that I'm being selfish by having a baby.

[Eva]

JACKIEOD:

What a blessing that you have such a wonderful man. Particularly since you are an abuse survivor.  I am too, so I can definitely relate. 

You said that you have given it to the Lord.  Let Him continue to lead you.  Please don't let what others dissuade you.

Love in Christ, Eva

[HisDaughter]

Maternal nurturing is born in every women.  Being a mother is what most every woman wants and dreams of.  Talk to God openly about your desires and wait on Him.  Ask Him for HIS will and that your will, will be reconciled to His.
I do not think it is selfish at all even considering your condition.  God has a special plan for you and your husband so seek His will in the matter and in all matters.

As a side note: I too am a survivor of domestic, verbal and spiritual abuse.  I lean on God for everything and He has never failed me once!   
God Bless you!
Yvette