Hello,God'sCreation24! Good to meet ya! I've been married for 27 yrs, been through 3 children, starting on grandchildren now! I hope that gives me a little bit of say on this subject.
I've worked both outside and in the home, and over the years have come to this conclusion: it is better to stay home with the children and be involved in their lives. I'm not saying it is wrong to have a job. I know that it takes two to make ends meet comfortably. And its a struggle to make ends meet. But with the horrible way that our society is rapidly deteriorating, our children need not only protection, (one can only do so much, after all) but Godly guidance. Take it from someone who fell into the me-me-me mindset and didnt give her children the protection and guidance so sorely needed and now regrets. I cant go into it, (but when they return to God, Oh! the testimony they will have!)
If you do work, dont stress out over the house.
Keep it enough to keep the health inspectors out, and enjoy your children. They grow up fast enough as it is!
I used to read Proverbs 31 and get so discouraged! How can one woman do all that? Truth is she cant. This is just a description of things to look for in a possible wife. Kind of like honesty and industry in husbands. (my aunt used to look for callouses on my boyfriends' hands!)
One of the greatest gifts we have been given of God is to be a mother. It is our greatest mission field and ministry. I am so sorry I did not recognize that sooner.
Yes, its hard, but keep things in perspective and God high on your priority list, and SMILE!
Your gonna do fine!