Did You Hear the Love?

[sincereheart]

I don't know if anyone would be interested in this or not... but some other posts got me to thinking about this. So here goes....

What are some of the ways that a spouse (or loved one) lets you know that you are loved?

I hear so many women bash their spouse. I don't mean the once-in-awhile fuss from frustration; but as a regular thing. And I always wonder if any man can be THAT bad! Wouldn't they have to have at least one or two good qualities?

And I may be more strange than has been previously thought because I know my husband is the best ever!  

So I'll go first....
Not only does my husband put up with me   but he is always willing to stop whatever he's doing when I have a Scripture question! There was a time not too long ago when I was really heavy-hearted about a situation. He stayed up until two in the morning to help me search Scripture and pray. He gets up at 5:30 a.m.

He is such a blessing to me!


Does anyone else have a great (or even good) spouse?

[Psalm 119]

Sincereheart,

I have a wonderful husband of twenty eight years. He is the love of my life. He worked very hard for a number of years so I could  be home with the kids. He has never been a demanding husband, at the same time, I try never to take advantage.

A Christian woman who is bashing her husband, needs to be reminded that she is called to love her husband and her children. To do otherwise, is to break the oneness of the union of marriage. Our marriage should be a picture on this earth of Christ and His church.

Psalms 119

[TigerLily]

My husband is a very hard worker.. (has own hardwood flooring buisness) and a good father.

TL

[NateyCakes]

Awww, I love hearing the *wonderful* things being said about the husbands.

A Christian woman who is bashing her husband, needs to be reminded that she is called to love her husband and her children. To do otherwise, is to break the oneness of the union of marriage. Our marriage should be a picture on this earth of Christ and His church.

AMEN! I agree. I have g/f's who are like that. They bad mouth their mate over anything & in public, I think thats terrible.

My Husband is just the "Bestest" lol. Seriously, he is incredibly wonderful to me! Anyone who can put up living in a life size Strawberry ShortCake looking home & drowning in Pink everything has to be good!
He also cooks for me! (Isnt that terrible? Goodness, I must sound like such a dream for a wif eh?) But I have NO clue how to cook, Ive tried so I told him when we got married, I don't cook and he said Ok, I will. He cooks for me almost everynight. He is an EXCEPTIONAL cook!
He also does little things for me that are just so sweet. I have bad anxiety & panic attacks so Im a nut job sometimes & I'll ask him to open all the closet doors in the middle of the night & turn on the lights just to reassure me and he does with no problem and comes over & kisses me & says its ok.
He also takes care of me when Im sick. He will take off from work just to stay home with me & never gets mad about it.
We've been this way for almost 10 years and I swear on my life, he acts the same way when we first met All I can say is Thank You Lord for bringing me someone so wonderful!!
(Im a handful & a half to put up with so...Im thankful, heheh)

[Gracey]

HHmmm, well, my husband (almost 29 yrs) has a lot of wonderful qualities too...long suffering (patient), a loving and kind heart, giving and forgiving, a better father than I am mother, and I love him more than I love myself.

But even so....

there are things he does that drive me nuts. That's just the nature of being human.

Then there's such a thing as forgiveness. Thank God He has taught me that!

Gracey    

[Willowbirch]

I'm not married, but I have a wonderful father. He is always willing to spend time with us, and never forgets a special occasion. He is always ready to protect the family against anything that might come our way. He tells me every winter morning, "Take an extra coat and hat to work - its cold out there!" or "Watch for falling branches at work, its windy!" For Sweetest Day and Valentine's Day, he gets a dozen roses for my mother and miniature potted roses for us girls (and candy, lol!) He is always ready to fill a need, and reminds me to put lotion on my hands so they won't crack. He makes sure we are safe and comfortable; he asks if I'm eating enough, if I've got warm socks, if I need hair conditioner...
Every Sunday morning he gets up early to make breakfast and warm up the bathroom for our showers. Almost every Saturday he takes the family out for lunch and a "drive".

Last Sunday, *somebody* (me) forget to wash dishes the night before...so instead of wiping a skillet to cook eggs, he got a brand new pan...lol!

[Shylynne]

I like this thread!

"I was told  a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age. The next day, I  locked mine in the cellar"

It`s funny, and it`s true!  21 years this month !  

I loved the following article:

We want to be like Christ, and in marriage we are able to learn and to express many of His attributes. Love, sharing, giving, forgiving, wisdom, kindness, trustworthiness, patience, nobleness and goodness are a few that come to mind. The marriage will reflect the degree to which husbands and wives are succeeding. Our marriages reflect our godliness. None of us are perfect and we are all walking this path together. Understanding our frailties and our need for a close mate will go a long way towards making our lives as happy as they can be within the conditions we find ourselves
http://www.unitednewscanada.org/2003/jan_feb/marriage.html

...and I LOVE the pic...I named it "Going for the Gold"  
 slow and steady wins the race!  

[sincereheart]

A Christian woman who is bashing her husband, needs to be reminded that she is called to love her husband and her children.

True.... but there's never any easy way to do it. And there's always offense taken.   But we do have a few at our church who have never spoken ill of their spouses. They are such a wonderful example for me!

He has never been a demanding husband, at the same time, I try never to take advantage.

Not taking advantage! That's so important....

My husband is a very hard worker.. (has own hardwood flooring buisness) and a good father.

How wonderful! Especially the 'dad' part!  

Willowbirch, Your dad sounds wonderful! Now I know where you get your kindness from!   I bet he'll be a wonderful grandfather, too!

and I love him more than I love myself

Oh Gracey! That says it all.....


We want to be like Christ, and in marriage we are able to learn and to express many of His attributes. Love, sharing, giving, forgiving, wisdom, kindness, trustworthiness, patience, nobleness and goodness are a few that come to mind. The marriage will reflect the degree to which husbands and wives are succeeding. Our marriages reflect our godliness. None of us are perfect and we are all walking this path together. Understanding our frailties and our need for a close mate will go a long way towards making our lives as happy as they can be within the conditions we find ourselves

I'll be saving this! There's a whole of depth in that one little paragraph! And the pic is great!~  


I've also noticed that kids give us unconditional love! No matter how mad or frustrated they are with the parents; when things go wrong, it's the first people they run to! What an awesome display of love! What an awesome responsibilty we have! It's always reminded me that I'm much like that with God.  When things didn't go my way, I might get mad at Him... but I always needed Him!

[NateyCakes]

Amen to this thread

Last Sunday, *somebody* (me) forget to wash dishes the night before...so instead of wiping a skillet to cook eggs, he got a brand new pan...lol!

LOL!! Good Dad!

[sincereheart]

NateyCakes, I just love to read about you and your husband! I always get quite a chuckle from a man living in a pink world! He must think you're pretty special!  

I'm just sure my husband would rebel if I tried to send him a Strawberry Shortcake lunch!   LOL!

I'd love to hear more!  

[Willowbirch]

Thanks for the picture!   There is a lot of story in it!

[Whitehorse]

My spouse has a gift for getting me out of the doldrums when I'm discouraged. I will say that!

[sincereheart]

My spouse has a gift for getting me out of the doldrums when I'm discouraged.


What a priceless gift that is!  

[Whitehorse]

Sincereheart, thank you for the compliment; I'll pass it along. Yes, it has been a true blessing.    

[Shylynne]

Marriage...The Fine Print

Taking time to clean out closets led me to my marriage license the other day. I was surprised and delighted to discover a section of the license, which I had previously overlooked. Apparently, this has been on marriage licenses for quite some time. My mother and grandmother didn't know of this but, as luck would have it, I spotted the fine print in time to save all current marriages. Feel free to send gifts and notes of gratitude:

In accordance with Estrogen Alliances of the United States of America and in partnership with Making Merry Marriages, the Law of Women charges the husband to the following rules, guidelines and obligations:

Never use the following words and phrases in an obtuse manner: emotional, overly sensitive, that time of the month, Eve had long hair...why can’t you, head of household and weird.

When your wife says to take the children to the store with you, abide without question or unkind look.

It’s hard enough keeping the children and pets away for ten luxurious minutes alone. For the love of God and womankind, when your wife is taking a bath stay out of the bathroom.

Your wife will be happy that you’ve decided to buy a racecar for the local stock car races. However, do not attempt to explain how this will enhance her life. Perhaps a certificate to her favorite day spa will explain the situation in a way both of you can understand.

You are highly advised to never forget or shrug off an anniversary, birthday or holiday that is important to your wife. If you are running low on money, she may say she doesn’t want a gift. However, she is lying to make you feel better so get in the kitchen and make her dinner. Can’t cook? Learn. She learned to create a wonderful home for you.

Do not stop and smell the roses. Pick them up and bring them home to your wife.

It wouldn’t hurt for you to smell like roses every now and then. Or, perhaps, like Safeguard.

When your friends come over, you are admonished to not get into a gender war. You may win the public battle but you, dear husband, will lose the private war, which will be held after company leaves.

When dining out occasionally, do not encourage your wife to order the cheapest entree on the menu.

While doing laundry, if your wife turns your underwear pink wear them anyway.

Remember that women are amazing creatures. They have the capacity to lift you up to heaven or drag you into eternal hell. Be wise and choose well. When you fail, pray for grace. God knows you’re going to need it.


On a personal note, my husband has asked me to explain to you that the above statements do not reflect any underlying problems that exist in our relationship. He also advised me to say that he is a wonderful husband and that our previous anniversary just so happened to fall on a day in which everything went wrong.

It appears I left out the part about never using the word over-react.

Written by Kim Burke Frazzled Women Enterprises