Thank you for your advice.  I appreciate you prayer and the prayers of other believes.

By the way, you where correct in assuming that I was writing about the guy who was seeking help, not the one ministering to him.  I apologize to pastor Roger, I was referring to Brother Paul's attitude in my post not the Pastor's.

Tom,
 
Although I might have worded things a little different I agree with most everything that you have written thus far.  From reading the posts it looked like Roger wanted others to not judge him, but was unwilling to show them the same grace.

It is not my aim in responding to this post to disparage him, so I will stop at this point.  I pray that God touches his heart and gives him the humbleness to receive Godly counsel.  That being stated, I am not sure how effective my prayers at this point in my life. 

The real reason that I am writing is because I would ask for prayer concerning my own life.  Pornography/sexual lust, pride and anger are three things that Satan, the world and my flesh have used to lure me from God.  I know that all three of these sins are related, but am really not sure which comes first, or is the predominant one in my life.  I would like to get rid of them.  I can't find a way out of this cycle that I am in.

Another thing that bothers me (besides that fact that I have a bad testimony) about this is that if my problem with pornography would come out it would hurt the ministry of a close family member.  Even though I am not in a leadership position I attend the same church as this person.  Also my computer is hooked up through their webservice, so even if I overcome my problem with pornography today if at some point in the future some viewed their internet history it would give them a misrepresentation of who was viewing the offensive material.

I am looking for Biblical advice and godly wisdom in two areas:  First, what can I do to get rid of this sin.  I know the Bible.  Regardless, I am either missapplying scripture, or missing something.  Second, what do I do about the possibility that a church leader could be blamed for my past sins.  I have considered quietly talking with some of the church leaders about my situation. 

Again I would ask that those who read this post would pray for my deliverance and the boldness to share my testimony and warn others once I am delivered.