Hello again,
I'm afraid you need someone in the flesh to help you with something as serious as what you have described.  It sounds like you want to honor your father, but maybe he hasn't given you a chance to hear you out.  I don't want to give you the impression that you can get sound help over the Internet....it's just not possible.  You sound very young and I don't need to know your age, however, if there is someone who could be a moderator in this case, it would really help.  Someone who is totally impartial and would listen to both your side and your husband's side.  However, if he is unwilling to go to counseling, then maybe you should consider going alone.  And let me warn you to make sure you go to a believing counselor.  If you went to a counselor who doesn't honor God or follow His Word, you could be worse off than you are now.  If you have been doing everything in your power to make this relationship work for 1 1/2 yrs and your husband refuses to even talk about the problems, then it is really up to you to get the counseling for yourself.  If finances are a major issue, perhaps you could see another minister of your choosing who doesn't charge for his professional advice.  Make sure you don't make any drastic decisions without praying about them and thinking seriously of the consequences.  Don't be too hard on your Dad as it is very hard for loved ones to totally understand the situation.  As for your living arrangements, try and make peace with your father and be as respectful as you can when talking about your marriage relationship.  Don't jump around from place to place living here and there, because this in itself is very stressful, and it can cause you to lose good friends.  Keep your faith strong by reading out of God's Word and don't neglect your prayer life.  God bless and I'll be praying for you.
Yours in Christ

Hello  emp821  
I replied to you in the other section (Marriage Relationships), but then noticed you posted here.  
I agree with your Mom that you shouldn't subject yourself to either the threat of physical abuse and I can understand about feeling like you are in danger.  Since your Dad is a minister, I'm sure he is conflicted about giving you advice.  However, the Lord does not expect you to put yourself in harms way.  I truly hope you have some other safe place to go in this volitile situation.  Here is what I posted in the other section.  Good luck and God bless!
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Hello  
It's been a very long time since I signed in on this forum, but something prompted me to check in again and I read this thread.  I don't know how life is going for sdp7280 (the thread starter), but as for your question emp821, I will say this.  Our bodies belong to the Lord and it is His temple.  If you have a physically abusive spouse, the Lord Jesus doesn't expect you to live with such a man.  He does not respect or honor the fact that the Lord owns our bodies.  Our bodies are for us to use while we are here on this earth.  We are not to abuse them, and most defintely a person who took a vow to honor and protect us should not abuse us.  I know perfectly well that my response will not help you in the real sense or solve your current situation, but that is the way I understand the Bibical teaching of such an issue.  I pray that your situation will change for the better.  Sometimes we don't understand hardships at the time, but later it becomes clear that it was for a reason.  I was married to an abusive man in every sense of the word for almost 6 yrs.  I know that even though I never had a clear understanding of why I entered into that marriage that the Lord had a plan and that I learned something from that experience.  It was painful, but necessary.  I have been married to a good man for 26 yrs.  Right now my husband is going through a spiritual "draught" and I have been impatient for the situation to clear up.  However, you and I must remember that God's time is very different from the way we count time.  I have been given peace in my heart that this is something I must also endure and if I remain faithful to God and His Son, Jesus Christ - I will be content and at peace with my life.  I hope this has helped somewhat, but pray you have other believers in your life who can be of assistance.
Yours in Christ

Hello  
It's been a very long time since I signed in on this forum, but something prompted me to check in again and I read this thread.  I don't know how life is going for sdp7280 (the thread starter), but as for your question emp821, I will say this.  Our bodies belong to the Lord and it is His temple.  If you have a physically abusive spouse, the Lord Jesus doesn't expect you to live with such a man.  He does not respect or honor the fact that the Lord owns our bodies.  Our bodies are for us to use while we are here on this earth.  We are not to abuse them, and most defintely a person who took a vow to honor and protect us should not abuse us.  I know perfectly well that my response will not help you in the real sense or solve your current situation, but that is the way I understand the Bibical teaching of such an issue.  I pray that your situation will change for the better.  Sometimes we don't understand hardships at the time, but later it becomes clear that it was for a reason.  I was married to an abusive man in every sense of the word for almost 6 yrs.  I know that even though I never had a clear understanding of why I entered into that marriage that the Lord had a plan and that I learned something from that experience.  It was painful, but necessary.  I have been married to a good man for 26 yrs.  Right now my husband is going through a spiritual "draught" and I have been impatient for the situation to clear up.  However, you and I must remember that God's time is very different from the way we count time.  I have been given peace in my heart that this is something I must also endure and if I remain faithful to God and His Son, Jesus Christ - I will be content and at peace with my life.  I hope this has helped somewhat, but pray you have other believers in your life who can be of assistance.
Yours in Christ

Hello Brandie,
Sorry I didn't reply right away.  We have been very busy and, frankly I had forgotten my post about RVers.
We don't live in our RV full-time, sorry for the confusion.  We live in a reg. home and have a 28-ft 5th wheel.  Recently, I've had 2 surgeries back to back & my husband suffers from several types of arthritis which has been very active this winter.  Consequently, we haven't been traveling for awhile.  If the Lord wills, next mo. we'll get on the road again.  I absolutely love traveling in this manner.  It affords you the opportunity to meet so many nice people.  To me it really enriches your life.
Yours in Christ  

Hi All,
I am so happy I got some response on my question...my husband and I just today returned from a short, "shake-down" trip.  It was wonderful.  I forgot all my worries..when you get out like that it re-charges your batteries, so to speak.  We met some terrific people while on this 4-day trip.  Our next trip will be down around Houston, where we have friends who live there.

By the way, I'm a Texan, don't know if I mentioned that before.  We are fully retired, but we stay really busy.  My husband & I were talking while on this trip and we hope to travel for approx. 10 yrs before settling down.  Of course, all plans are if the Lord wills.

Yours in Christ, Sissy  

[Life in the Deep, Dark Pit]

Life in the Deep, Dark Pit

A man fell into a pit and couldn't get himself out.
A subjective person came along and said, "I feel for you down there."
An objective person walked by and said, "It's logical that someone would fall down there."
A Pharisee said, "Only bad people fall into pits."
A mathematician calculated how deep the pit was.
A news reporter wanted the exclusive story on the pit.
An IRS agent asked if he was paying taxes on the pit.
A self-pitying person said, "You haven't seen anything until you've seen my pit."
A fire-and-brimstone preacher said, "You deserve your pit."
A Christian Scientist observed, "The pit is just in your mind."
A psychologist noted, "Your mother and father are to blame for your being in that pit."
A self-esteem therapist said, "Believe in yourself and you can get out of that pit."
An optimist said, "Things could be worse."
A pessimist claimed, "Things will get worse."
"Jesus, seeing the man, took him by the hand and lifted him out of the pit."
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Have a wonderful day!  Yours in Christ,  Sissy  

["Perfect is human terminology and connotates flawless physical qualities. God and His heaven are so much more than anything man can think."]

I'd just like to say "Amen" to what Ollile posted, especially this.....

"Perfect is human terminology and connotates flawless physical qualities. God and His heaven are so much more than anything man can think."

Thank you Ollie.  Whatever man can think - God's way is far, far better.  We cannot comprehend his way totally, so there will always be questions.  However, the older I get, it seems to be getting easier to ACCEPT those things I do not totally understand, which leads to peace and contentment.  I'm not saying I'm ALWAYS THERE, but it's getting better.    Have a great day!

Yours in Christ, Sissy

[However, some folks don't come to Christians Unite for the same reasons you and I do, and some folks lack common sense.]

I'd just like to say "ditto" also to what blackeyedpeas/Tom has said re his last quote which was:

However, some folks don't come to Christians Unite for the same reasons you and I do, and some folks lack common sense.

These people ARE seekers...they just don't know it yet.

Have a nice day!

Yours in Christ, Sissy

[Here's a poem I found while doing my devotionals that might encourage, it certainly did me. Have a great day! Sissy]

Here's a poem I found while doing my devotionals that might encourage, it certainly did me.  Have a great day!  Sissy


When I Say "I Am A Christian"

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not shouting "I am saved"
I'm whispering "I get lost!"
"That is why I chose this way."
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and
need someone to be my guide.
When I say I am a Christian
I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and
pray for strength to carry on.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed
and cannot ever pay the debt.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not claiming to be perfect,
my flaws are too visible but
God believes I'm worth it.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartaches
which is why I seek His name.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I do not wish to judge.
I have no authority.
I only know I'm loved.

By Carol Wimmer

[Good morning Forrest,You know, sometimes it is hard to discuss something without misunderstanding. You know yourself that when you are talking to someone in person this happens, email seems to magnify it even more. Do you agree? Thank you for your input. This is a completely new medium for me to "talk" with others. I think sometimes people (including me) get too emotional and loose the attitude Christ wants us to have - do everything in (agape) love for their fellowman. Thanks again and have a great day!Yours in Christ, Sissy]

Good morning Forrest,
You know, sometimes it is hard to discuss something without misunderstanding.  You know yourself that when you are talking to someone in person this happens, email seems to magnify it even more.  Do you agree?  Thank you for your input.  This is a completely new medium for me to "talk" with others.  I think sometimes people (including me) get too emotional and loose the attitude Christ wants us to have - do everything in (agape) love for their fellowman.  Thanks again and have a great day!

Yours in Christ, Sissy

Hi Forrest,
Yes, I'm very aware of the scripture you posted.  The Lord God can do anything He pleases - including skipping the baptism part.  However, my point was that A4C left out the scripture telling about the jailer being baptised.  Jesus Christ was baptised - I believe he must have thought it was important.  Because Christ gave me His example of being baptised, and also we have the gospels giving story after story about baptism in the New Testament - I believe baptism is important and necessary for me.  Everyone else has to choose what they believe on that subject.

I'm not looking for a debate, just posting my interpretation.

Thanks.  Yours in Christ, Sissy

[Thank you for this...I really enjoyed it, however, there is an additional step which you left out of your post. After the Philippian jailor asked that important question and they told him the answer...there was another step - he was baptized with water.In Christian love,Sissy]

It Takes All Kinds (Part 2 of 2)

By Pastor Keith Baxter, Tampa Bible Fellowship, Tampa, Florida
Home Page: http://www.tampabible.org/

"If you are still relying on your religion, or think that you are righteous and are not in need of a Savior or even yet just don’t want to believe at all. Then stop, think, and believe and be saved from eternal separation from God in the Lake of Fire.

The Philippian jailor asked one simple question…

Acts 16:30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?

31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…"

Thank you for this...I really enjoyed it, however, there is an additional step which you left out of your post.  After the Philippian jailor asked that important question and they told him the answer...there was another step - he was baptized with water.

In Christian love,
Sissy

[Anyone out there Max Lucado fans? I'd like to know.Thanks, Sissy]

Anyone out there Max Lucado fans?  I'd like to know.
Thanks, Sissy  

Love all the wonderful graphics.
I would say my ministry or one of my talents would be that of encouragement.  Yesterday, I was talking with my husband and we were on this very subject.  So, encouragement - that's my strength.

In Chrisitan love, Sissy
 

I'm back.  Found something that is appropriate to this question:

"The government of God is not, as Satan would make it appear, founded upon a blind submission, an unreasoning control.  It appears to the intellect and the conscience.  "Come now, and let us reason together," is the Creator's invitation to the beings He has made.  Isaiah 1:18. God does not force the will of His creatures.  He cannot accept an homage that is not willingly and intelligently given.  A mere forced submission would prevent all real development of mind or character; it would make man a mere automation.  Such is not the purpose of the Creator......He invites us to give ourselves to Him, that He may work His will in us.  It remains for us to choose whether we will be set free from the bondage of sin, to share the glorius liberty of the sons of God."

This spoke to me...hope it helped.....Sissy