DreamWeaver,

Yes, that would be great!  Thanks so much ...

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Sincereheart, you are so right!  I give my opinion as well and when it comes to my own daughter, probably more than I need to.. just want to make sure the point I'm trying to make is well taken by her.   Besides, she'll thank me someday.     There are so many young people that come to our churches who feel like they are not accepted because of their personal choices.  Most of the time they don't even realize the choice is bad.  What I've found being close to a lot the kids, the girls especially, is that they crying out for love they feel they're not getting.  I have seen first hand how damaging the judging can be.  Not only do the kids not realize their worth but they have adults, by their actions, also telling them they have no worth.  You're right though .... we should love and accept them and let God do the changing. 

There's a brother name Ron Luce, a youth evangelist who is the founder of Teen Mania.  He authored a book called  Battle Cry for a Generation... The Fight to Save America's Youth.  Although I have not read the entire book yet but from just reading a few sections, I think it's a book to be read by any and everyone with a heart for our youth.  They are truly in a battle and we must do all we can to help them get through it.  I believe if we can come to understand their battle, we will understand why music, movies and modest dress has become such an issue with this generation more so then in the past.  Only when we come to know the spiritual fight they are in, will we be able to help them, if we are committed.
I know it may seem like I'm going on and on and on but I am very passionate about the youth.  Probably because I have a teenager so I get to see and hear about the things they are dealing with on a regular basis.  And not just with my teen but her friends and their families.  They are truly in a crisis but it's not too late... that's good thing.  In case anyone would like to check out the website, here's the address:

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I am in the middle of reading a book called, 'Jerusalem Countdown' by Pastor John Hagee.  It's so interesting to read about Jewish history.  Some of the information can be very difficult to read because exposes the horrible treatment of Jews.
As I said, I am about half way through it but I would definitely recommend it to anyone who would like to know the real connect between Christians and Jews.  Also to shed some light on the happenings in the Mid East and what it all means to us here.

I totally agree with the last 2 comments from TalkerCat & Glennd.

Playing cards in itself is not a sin.  If the individual does not have a clear conscious then it's sin to him but that has nothing to with the next person who has a clear conscious.   As TalkerCat said, I could see if there was drinking, gambling and vulgar language.  Fellowship with other brothers and sisters can glorify God.  God wants us to have fun too.. bowling and movies is not just for unbelievers.  Like Glennd said, we must be careful in how we judge.  We can not decide what's right or wrong for someone else.  Be careful that we're not becoming like the Pharisees who were religious and not in a relationship with Christ.

Great comments TalkerCat and Glennd ...  

Hi everyone,

I'm new here so please forgive me if I mess this up.  

After reading some of the responses here I thought about how I dress and what I believe is appropriate for me and my daughter who is sixteen.  What I think is that no matter what, there will always be someone who feels that my dress or hers is not modest enough.  My daughter and I sometimes shop together and she knows my thoughts on different types of clothes.  Only on one occasion after shopping with her friends did she need to return an item, not because it exposed too much but because I thought it was more appropriate for maybe an older teen.   My point is that we as parents and as individual have to settle in our own heart what it modest or appropriate dress.  I totally agree that when you are a child of God you want to change different things, the way you dress may be one of those things.  And we are to be careful that what we do or say does not cause another brother or sister stumble.
Now, do we cover up ever inch of our bodies so that no one is tempted?  I really don't think so.  I don't believe there's anything wrong with wearing short sleeves or skirts above the knee or simply wearing pants.  I believe that we need to be mindful what we wear at all times but what I may deem as appropriate, my friend may not and we have to accept that we are different, our ideas about what's right or wrong will not always be the same.  We as fellow brothers and sister in Christ must respect one another and not judge a person because they don't things the way we believe they should be done.  One of the things that God gives is free will ... freedom of choice.  If I make a wrong choice, only I have to answer for it, no else.  So when someone is dressed inappropriate, instead judging them, our first instinct should be to pray for them.  God is the only One that knows the heart(1 Samuel 16:7) and is the only One has the right to judge.  That means that we can not look at a person and decide whether they are saved or not because of how they dress.  This happens a lot in my home church, where the older members judge the younger ones.  The sad thing is that instead mentoring the young people we now have separate worship services because the generation clash instead of embracing one another.  Sometime so simply as clothing can do damage that I don't think any of us want to be responsible for.
Anytime we judge we must examine our own motives because sometimes we can hold ourselves higher than others and in our pride we can look down at people instead of lifting them up.
My intent is not judge anyone because of their options because I have mine as well.  The bottom line is that we as individual have to stand before Jesus someday to be judged ... each of us will be accountable for ourselves and what we did or did not do... and also for the words we speak.

God Bless
Dee