Can I please comment!
I have been reading this post for about a week now as a guest. I decieded I should say something.
Firstly, to the original poster. Baby, let me tell you, I've been there and done that. I had one man lead me on for 2 years and that ended in nothing and another one 3 that ended in marriage. The only thing I can tell you is to trust God with your heart.
If it is his will He will bring it to past. If is not His will it will be buried forever.
It seems like you're afriad to go through or to have your heart broken and be disappointed. I can fully confess to you, my sister in christ, YOU CAN ENDURE. If God doesn't bless you with him it's only because he has something better.
I know this sounds redundant, as you have read many books before, but I would suggest "What becomes of the broken heart" by michelle hammond. As well as "just enough light for the step i'm on" Stormie Omartian.
Sometimes we may not know how tommorow will turn out but can rest in the fact that we serve a loving awesome God.
And to the Poster "M":
If you're trying to counsel someone, it may not be a good Idea to start off by saying they're obssesive. That just seemed a little cold-hearted to me. There is a way to get your point across without being negative. I find obssession not to be a laughing matter as in the case of my younger brother who was stalked and obssesed over by his mentally-ill girlfriend. She eventually killed my brother. Do we really want to associate saints as being this kind of person.
The bible says with loving-kindness have I drawn thee.