For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ.
John 1:16-18

Knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ, even we have believed in Jesus Christ, that we might be justified by the faith of Christ, and not by the works of the law: for by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified.
Galatians 2:15-17

I have to agree with TexasGrandma on this one.

I believe the bible was talking about the intent of the clothing. Many still believe pants to be only a men's clothing item, but as of today both sexes wear this item (in different cuts) and are accepted as their intended gender. Just as in those days both men and women wore "dresses" in different colors and were accepted as their gender. There is  always a difference.

Saying that wearing pants is sinful is like saying that wearing a T-shirt is also sinful. In that both male and female wear this item which has historically been worn by only men.

I also have to add that this scripture is an old testament scripture; meaning that it is of the "law". In that same chapter(I believe) it also talks about stoneing to death a  rebellious child or an unwed mother.

These rules don't apply for today because  as christians we believe christ destroyed the law as it was. Now we live under the law of grace and truth.

Who said I thought he was the "only One" for me, or "Gods Plan" Where did that come from? When he stoped talking to me I knew a future with him didn't look too promising. Maybe you're stereotyping my situation with similar others that you have heard. Read my original post. I said I wanted closure. Closure
doesn't mean I neccessarily want this to end in a relationship.
When I said I was afraid of the news of him getting married. I know this will mean I will never have a chance to talk to him on that level. When a man gets a wife, the last thing a single woman wants to do is go to him and bring up the past.

There were many other people involved between he and I communicating. for instance, his mother, his friends, my friends. It would be nice to know that something wasn't said to bring strife or confusion.

He never said he "loved" me, he said he had feelings and was intrested/ thats different. Love is a process.

In addition, I don't know of any man who's gonna say "I'm not sure about you, but can we keep in touch until I am.....until I find a job....want kids.....or just want to be bothred." This is highly unrealstic. Men have a hard time expressing their feelings as it is. If they're not sure they pretty much shut down until they are. This goes especially for younger men who are already confused and trying to find themselves.

Men are not as worried about "the One" getting away as women are. If she's taken they'll find someone else.

And lets discuss this obession thing. So you're saying that anything that "interferes with someone's life" is therefore an obsession. I find that to be highly out of balance. This is just one thing that I pray about. I pray for our country, unwed mothers, marriages of others, the will of God, my employment situation , my ministry. I guess this means these are obsessions as well. Or maybe they're just concerns. As we all have concerns and worries.

The only technique I know of is prayer and fasting.  

Or may the theory is that whatever we face, we should just get over it. However, I don't know of any situaition that's that easy.

I think an obession would imply that I've been doing something to keep in contact with him or perhaps get him involved. I don't know of any obsessives who voluntarily separate themselves from the person and seek God. As far as my dream: there is no way for me to prove that God talks to me or that he talks to anyone for that matter. We believe in the words that God has inspired those who wrote in the bible only by faith. There is no way to prove that He spoke to paul, noah, Isaiah... Or any character from the bible...However, we believe. And I believe God spoke to me warning me of his distant behavior..Why? Because God cares about his people. Even the little things.

As far as the "friendship" that we had, maybe I failed to mention that most of the time it was him who contacted or confronted me. I was so scared of being hurt I never assumed that there was anything. I always feel you should give the person enough space to make up their own mind you. It was only after he admitted feelings for me that felt serious about him.

The length of time? I've known this man since I was 13 years old and he was 15.

If I just wanted to be in love there were many others at the time willing to oblige.

At this point, I have heard, that he's having some problems financially and really going through some storms in his life. It would just be nice to know the specifics and if I have done anything to hurt or offend him.

I'm sending 500 books of poetry overseas to the men in Iraq. I'm trying to find a cheap instant/POD publisher can anyone help.

Butterflies Thanx so much for responding

Ya know I would confront him but it's just not that easy. He's a minister and my paticular religion teaches strictly against women confronting men. Especially about relationships and especially a minister. Sometimes it seems like confronting him would be more hurtful than what I'm experiencing right now. I can just imagine all the talk that others would have to say. I would never live it down. Especially if he rejects me or is dating someone. I just feel I would be out of place. Please continue to pray for me. Pray that I will allow myself to see the truth and move on...However, this is something that's easier said than done.

[After that things seemed to take off]

Singles/Marrieds/Women I have this Issue, this serious issue. It might sound a bit Kernal minded to some of you but I need help.

When I was 20 years old my eyes laid upon this beautiful man of God. I was impressed by his personality and love for God. However, I felt like I didn't have a chance. I threw it into the back of mind and basically gave up. About 6 months later I turned 21 and my family suprised me with a birthday party. They had secretly invided him, however, he could not attend due to an event he had scheduled that day. About a week later he called to apologize and to say he wished could have been there. After that things seemed to take off. We spoke often at church where he would often complement and encouragement me. About this time I felt myself falling for him so I prayed and asked the Lord to help me not do anything outside his Will. I asked God to take the desire away from me if it was not his Will. However, things progressed and he admitted his feelings for me to my sister. By then I was convinced wholeheartedly he was the Man God had for me. We had many similarities as well as crucial complementaries to each other...He's buisness minded/I'm creative, He's the oldest of three/I'm the youngest. He's good leader/ where as I follow. He's more outgoing/I'm on the shy side. His mother was in love with me, my mother liked him.....I felt he buisness major could really help the ministry I'm trying to get off the groud. It all fit.

I was totally convinced until about two weeks later when I started having dreams of people dying. God told me this was not a natural death but rather a spritual one. Something in my life was about to die. Low and behold it did. It was as if he fell from the face of the earth. When I saw him he acted as if I weren't alive. In fact, he avoided me. My heart was totally crushed. I had passed up other men of God so that I could be open for him...Only to get dumped.  

This is the part I need help with. It's been 3 three years since this happened and I still can't shake him. I can't get closure. I've prayed and fasted + tried to have an exorcism service with myself to draw out the spirit of vain imaginations ...lol. I've read books and ofcourse there is the whole "He's Just Not That Into You Revolution". But these things only seem to confuse me the more.

Sometimes I sit and dread the day someone gives me the news that he gotten married. I don't know what I'm going to do.
Can anyone help me. Has anyone experienced this. Please don't laugh at me. I'm open to hear anything I can.