Someone please help me.... my stepson was involved with a woman who was not his wife.  Now the woman has tried everyway possible to get into our lives.  We have our grandkids for a week starting tomorrow and she has asked to be able to spend time with them, which I denied - I don't think they should be put in the middle of this situation.  Now, my stepson who is on a tour of duty with the Navy and I can't speak with has written me asking me to let her have time with the boys as a personal favor to him.  I don't agree this is a good thing - the boys are 13 and 8.  Please tell me how to handle this.... :'(