To make a long story short, my daughter has been dating since the age of 15 1/2, mostly in our livingroom. She will be a senior in High school next year. Her beau is nearly 20 and a fine Christian young man. They see each other about every other day, and on Saturdays, spend almost all day together. We have never had any problems with this relationship.

We have a 14 year old son who has been in love with this girl for 3 years. He has gone thru major emotions about her during this time. Two weeks ago, her boyfriend broke up with her. My son was there to pick up the pieces, and now he is on top of the world! She is a very nice girl! I am so proud for him!

We have had a few issues with him in the last couple of years.
Found a magazine under his bed, empty pack of cigarettes, got caught cheating in class and has had problems with his language. He has always been very sorry and has seemingly changed and been repentant. He has gone thru thinking that he is just going to turn out bad no matter how hard he tries.

The girls best friend is one of our neighbors.
My son went over and spent 4 hours with her Tuesday night, with plenty supervision. Thursday night she came over to our house and spent 3 hours. Tonite, our son went to a birthday party with her and then to her house, with her mom there. I told him that we would be picking him up in 3 hours. We did.

The problem: He is so mad at us he acts like he could kill us!
He wanted to stay for another couple hours and watch a movie. We stuck to our guns and picked him up. He says the reason he has so much problem with worldy activities is because we have sheltered him to much. I really don't feel that this is true.

The question: What kind of parameters should we set for our 14 year old son? What do we do when he compares his sister's freedom to his? I need help!