Butch, I think you are very intuitive. I am not insulted. He knows that I don't feel loved, and I guess I have felt that it was my own fault for not doing something that he needed. He's known for quite a while, and just never did anything about it. Now all of a sudden, he's decided he must not be doing something right if I don't feel like he cares for me. So since you realized that maybe I am just trying to get his attention, is that the wrong route? Should I hold back more and be more distant? What should I do? its not your fault, nobody is to blame.you know deep down that you are great and hes lucky to have you.dont try to play any kind of games or tricking him . we men are horrible with hints suggestions and clues. my wife will tell me something, im listenning, im paying attention and i still dont understand.
so try to express your feelings and emotions as clearly as posible, and then help him and guide him what you need want and excpect . because if hes a good guy he'll rise to the occation.
judge not is right, when he said the following.
When my wife says to me “You are a good provider…” it makes my day/week/month. Complimenting a man’s ability to take care of his family is SO important… Some men may down-play it, but to REAL MEN it’s the best compliment he can get and it is a compliment that WILL get you results. but i dont think its him that doesnt feel the love.that being said if he deserves this copliment give him it or any other one that he deserves , but dont just give him lip service be honest.
what would be better if your husband said......
you are the most beautiful woman in the world.
or
to me your the most beautiful woman ive ever known.
i also get the feelling you are somewhat of a push over, its good to be nice but , maybe he needs a little more of a challenge
if this applies think about how you could work it into your relationship, and im not talking about fightting or argueing. i mean a positive challange for him . you probebly give of your self to no end with little in return ,are you mentaly challenging him? im sure you would like him to be your best friend how would you treate a best friend and expect them to treate you?
any how this relationship stuff is always a work in progress. and it sounds like your headed in the right direction . its alot of work. and he does love you, i know this, but he just doesnt have the ability to know how to get you to feel it, this is were woman are smarter than men, and you need to teach him, how
.(to any woman who read this i didnt mean as though woman are not smarter than men in other areas).
lots of luck, and oh if he is somewhat into god and all, you may at sometime want to pull out the trump card, and ask him if he'll pray alone or with you to have jesus guide you both in this.but your timeing has to be right,for most guys.
good luck butch
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, kind of down today, life is strange ive fought hard for a big promotion at my job ,its been a tough battle i finnally got it, come with a lot more money and responsibility. i was so excited yesterday this morning was my first day as the boss , after 28 yrs of working here i finnally was takeing over. big meeting this mornning with all the employees, all pumped up ,right. nope i got a call last night from my mother whom im very close with shes 66 and has breast cancer. so never the less today im humbled again and realize life, time and people are worth more than ego and money.