Restore the relationship or let my heart change

[chanelle]

I recently ended a relationship and am rather at a place where I don't know how to feel.  I still feel as if the person I was involved maybe is who I should still be with but I am not for certain.  He makes matters more confusing because I am rather clueless about how he feels. I need to be sure so I can either try to work things out with him or move on.  I have spent a lot of my adult life alone and I trully believe it is the Lord's will for me to have a companion and mate.

Please pray for me and for the man, that he be open to the Lord's will for us and that he not be able to hurt me with my feelings for him nor will he play silly games with my emotions.

[Whitehorse]

I've been there, too. I will certainly pray for you, because this is a most painful circumstance; I don't think there's anything more cruel than someone playing games with your heart. If you feel he's been doing that, I think you're right for letting him go. Insincerity is no basis for a relationship, IMHO.

Is he a believer?

[all4God]

Looks like you're having a rough time, huh?  Stop and think about something for just a moment. You don't breathe a single breath without God's say-so.  He knows everything that is going on and He knows everyone's heart. No matter what, His plan will prevail and trust Him that you did the right thing. For some encouragement, Matthew 10:19-20. "...do not worry about what to say or how to say it.  For when the correct time comes, it will not be you speaking but the spirit of your Father speaking through you..." Just trust Him, and sit back and watch Him work.

[chanelle]

To answer the questions:  Yes he is a believer and we are now attending the same book study at church.  I started to attend a class scheduled at another time (in order to avoid him) but it got cancelled.  I know the Lord says to forgive and let him work and the whole relationship was permeated with working together for Christ.  I am sorry I did not clarify that in my request.  It is the very reason I do not want to let him go but after some events last fall our relationship was pretty much devastated.  I believe both people should give and I had given all I could at the time.

I still do not feel that there is any real closure however.  I would love to get back together but I know the Lord has to be the one to bring it about.  Thank you for praying.  It is important to me to know that you will and I believe intercession is very helpful.  I may at times be too involved here to be completely impartial.

[Symphony]

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding; in all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight thy paths..." (Proverbs...)

[Whitehorse]

Ouch. Yeah, if you're doing all the giving, that would say something. Was he serving Christ in the capacity you shared in the relationship when you met him?

[chanelle]

I tend to think so.  He definitely served with his time and talents in several ministries.  He only became what I term difficult and selfish toward me after he suffered some rather serious health problems last fall.  He is doing really well now though and I think we should be at peace with each other.  There is not an ongoing argument but there is something between us, friction for one thing but it probably comes from attraction and tension from his conscience maybe.  I know circumstantially we are put in each others paths.  I believe God is saying something when that happens.  I am listening, and praying he will too......

[Whitehorse]

Well, that's great! Maybe there's a reason that other book study was canceled. Sometimes things just take time to gel, and if this is something you want, maybe there's a reason for that.   I'll pray that things turn out very sweetly for both of you.