Learning,
It is very hard to be quiet when we are concerned about a friends soul. We do all learn at a different pace. I am sure you have heard the bit about " one plants another waters". Praying for your friend is the best thing you can do. What i hear in your post is about a person (DJ) who is very unsure, fearfull and untrusting. Keep praying.
Amen, Reba.
Learning, don't give up on your friend. Talk to her about the Lord, in a non-threatening way. His Word is a sword, a light and a hammer; it can do great things. Remember that she is in God's hands.