Pornography

[Soldier4Christ]

Amen!

[godscreation24]

I had the same problem with my husband for a while...it's just so weird though...he came from a christian background..I mean for heaven sake..his father was a minister and mother a missionary! I am taking my time working with him on creating a Christian lifestyle and family for ourselves...so far it is working. No porn for three weeks!

[LisaR]

OK it has been a couple of years since I posted anything about this. I prayed and I prayed and I prayed. He did go up in church and ask for forgiveness. We have been going to church for at least 9 out of the 10 years that we have been married. But guess what a couple of weeks later he was right back at it. He is not only a porn addict he is also a gotcha21 addict. I said something to him and he said he was sorry. Well this continued back and forth like this for some time and then I said something to him about it but he only denied it and tells me that I am accusing him of things that he has not done. Well I chose to let it go and started ignoring all of his doings. Last Friday there was a picture that I saw that he took of himself and sent it to I know of at least 1 woman. Probably more but I was just so shocked that I could not look anymore. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I told him that I was just about at the end of my rope with us. So he left but I wish he had not left. He said that he left because it sounded like I wanted him to. He went to his mothers that lives about 700 miles away. He is telling me that he is going to get some kind of counseling. But how do I deal with this. I do not know what to do, what to think or how I should feel. I am very hurt, angry, and embarrassed, my feelings are so all around that I am not even sure if I love him anymore. How do I figure out what I am feeling and how do I deal with it. I have told no one about any of this except on here.

[Soldier4Christ]

I think that it is way past time for you and your husband to get counseling and I don't mean on the internet. Internet counseling is not very effective. It should be with a good Christian counselor and it should be face to face with them.

[LisaR]

I wish we could find one. I have searched for a nearby Christian Counselor but I have not had any luck finding one. It seams like no one wants to deal with this problem or act's like there is not a problem.   

[Brother Jerry]

Have your pastor look for you as well.  Most pastors have many references and "hook ups" with counselors and even with counselors that do not advertise but simply run off of references. 

[Soldier4Christ]

There are some churches that also have counseling services, especially for marriage counseling. One of the best programs that I have seen for addictions of any kind is called 'Reformers Anonymous'. This is an excellent program to attend even if you don't have any serious addictions. It is also helpful to attend if you have a family member that is addicted.

The following link can help you find an RU near you:

http://www.reformu.com/resources/chapter-locator.html

[Hope]

Hi I would like to join in on this  postings.  My husband has had an addiction to porn  all most all of our married life he has been in and out of it for the past 20 years.  for 18 years of it I did not know anything about it.  I have read a lot of information about this addiction.  This is nothing about the wife it has all to do with the man or the person who has the addiction.  When one has an addiction it does effect a lot of different people (family wife children etc).  RU is a great program for all types of addictions.  I have been going to a local chapter for year and half.  It has help me over and over.  My husband is now in in house treatment program with another group.  That is where he choose to go.  Like Pastor Rogers has said RU is great. Reformer Unanimous is Biblical based and you learn a lot of scripture and lot of Christian principles.  Just go on line and you can fine a chapter close to where you are and if you can't they have it every Friday night on line.  Christian counseling is very hard to find and you need someone who has knowledge with porn addiction because it is an addiction that needs specialize knowledge in it.  You have to realized this has nothing to do with you and you can not fix it.  God has to get a whole of your husband heart and your husband has to see this as it is.  He is probably in denial and does not want to recognize it as what it is.  Porn or a sexual addiction does not get better without some type of intervention.  It needs to come from a Godly man who can tell you dear Husband that he needs help.  One thing that I can do he pray for you and your husband.  I hope I have not cross the lines here I am new to this and if you want more information you can look up my email and I will be happy to help you find some help if I can.

[Soldier4Christ]

Hello Hope,

No, you didn't go to far in your post. It was just fine and I'm glad that you joined in on it.

We highly recommend that you keep your email address listed as private. There are way too many scams and other illicit activities on the internet that love to get a hold of email addresses and fill them with garbage. This is the reason that I gave a link to one of the RU web sites above.

RU is in fact a great program and I'm glad to hear that it has helped you. The people implementing this program do so in a very discreet manner because they are very concerned about others and definitely show the love of God. It is such a great program that I highly recommend it to those that may not have a known addiction of any sort. It can definitely help all in their walk with Him.

[nChrist]

Hello Hope and All,

I echo Pastor Rogers' advice to keep your email address private and hidden. I also echo his other advice about this addiction.

The Internet is many times the worst source that feeds this addiction, and it's also a place for all kinds of scams and con games to get help on this addiction. The best help for this addiction is always in person and with highly skilled Christian counselors. One of the best first steps might be to turn the Internet completely off for good. There are armies of people on the Internet trying to get others hooked on pornography on the Internet because of the huge sums of money involved. They could care less about destroying homes and marriages with their filth. The name of their game is to give away enough to get someone hooked - money and the devil takes over from there. I firmly believe that GOD is the only real answer for this and many other addictions. So, skilled Christian counselors are the absolute best in my opinion.

Love In Christ,
Tom

1 Corinthians 6:17 KJV  17  But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

[Nettie Lynn]

Praise God everyone!

Lisa, as stated by others, pornography is a very strong demon, but NOT stronger than the power of the ALMIGHTY GOD!

Eph. 6: 10:18 verses states:
[10] Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
[11] Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
[12] For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
[13] Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
[14] Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
[15] And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
[16] Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
[17] And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
[18] Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

Also, Lisa, I strongly believe when dealing with a strong hold such as this kind, we must fast & pray as often as needed for our love ones & our self as well.

Matt. 17:21
[21] Howbeit this kind goeth NOT OUT but by prayer and fasting.

I do agree with counseling as well. Yahshua (Jesus) said  Faith & Works"!

Jas. 2:18-20
[18] Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works.
[19] Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.
[20] But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead?  We will continue to pray for your husband's deliverance on our prayer line.  GOD IS SO FAITHFUL!