I NEED PRAYER SO BADLY

[littlenana]

HELLO.

A FRIEND OF MINE TOLD ME OF THIS FORUM AND LET ME USE HER COMPUTER TO REQUEST PRAYER.
MY SON HAS 5 CHILDREN, HIS WIFE HAD TWINS IN MAY AND THEY WERE ABUSED BY HER NOT FEEDING THEM. THE LITTLE GIRL TWIN ENDED UP IN THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE SHE WAS 2 MONTHS OLD AND WEIGHED 4 POUNDS. THE CHILDREN WER LEFT IN THE HOUSE ALONE WHILE SHE WENT NEXT DOOR ALL THE TIME. MY SON WAS PUT IN JAIL AT THE TIME THIS WAS HAPPENING BY HER PARENTS OVR A LIE HIS WIFE TOLD AND WHILE HE WAS IN JAIL, SHE DID NOT TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN, ALL UNDER 3 AND THE BABIES DIAPERS HAD MAGOTS IN THEM SO CPS TOOK THE BABIES FROM HER AND PUT THEM WITH FAMILY. MY DAUGHTER HAS THE LITTLE GIRL TWIN AND THE OLDEST DAUGHTER WHO IS 3, MY SON HAS THE LITTLE GIRL WHO IS 21 MONTHS AND i HAVE THE LITTLE BOY TWIN AND THE OLDER BROTHER WHO IS TWO, AND WILL SOON BE 3. sHE HAD THESE CHILDREN TO STAY OUT OF JAIL, BUT WENT TO JAIL ANYWAY. MY SON IS STILL IN JAIL AND WE ARE PRAYING THE TRUTH WILL COME OUT. HE HAS CUSTODY OF THE OLDER 3 WHEN HE GETS OUT AND GETS A JOB AND MEANS TO SUPPORT THE OLDER 3. THE TWINS CAN NEVER GO BACK BECAUSE THEY ALMOST DIED FROM STARVATION.  I AM HAVING A HARD TIME WITH THE OLDER BROTHER BECAUSE HE HAS MUCH RAGE, DOES NOT HAVE AN ATTENTION SPAN, HE WILL NOT MIND AND THESE CHILDREN HAVE BEEN KICKED OUT OF DAYCARE DUE TO THEM NOT MINDING. THE OLDER BROTHER IS MEAN TO THE BABY AND I HAVE TO KEEP CLOSE EYE ON HIM. IT IS SO HARD FOR ME TO WORK WITH THIS CHILD AND IT HURTS BECAUSE I LOVE HIM, BUT HE IS SO VERY HARD TO HANDLE. mY SON THOUGHT HIS WIFE WOULD CHANGE, BUT SHE WAS ALWAYS BUYING DOGS WITH HOT CHECKS AND TREATING THE DOGS BETTER THAN THE CHILDREN. CPS FOUND HE IS NOT THE ABUSER SO GAVE CUSTODY OF THE OLDER 3 TO HIM. tHE REASON HE IS IN JAIL IS BECAUSE HIS WIFE TOLD HIM HER FATHER GAVE HER STUFF TO PAWN TO BRING THEM TO WHERE I LIVE AND IT WAS A LIE. SHE TOLD HIM SHE HAD A WARRANT AND NEEDED HIM TO PAWN THE STUFF. THE FATHER AND MOTHER PRESSED CHARGES ON MY SON AND HIS WIFE TO TEACH THEIR DAUGHTER A LESSON AND BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE MY SON. I HAVE RECORDINGS OF PHONE CALLS FROM HER MOTHER THAT CALL MY SON NAMES AND THAT HIS FAMILY WILL PAY. HIS WIFE'S SISTER IS A WITNESS TO WHAT HAPPENED AND TOLD MY DAUGHTER SHE WOULD GO TO THE JUDGE AND TELL THE TRUTH OF WHAT HAPPENED. PLEASE PRAY THE JUDGE WILL LISTEN AND SET MY SON FREE. I RAISED HIM TO KNOW THE LORD AND DID NOT WANT HIM TO MARRY A NON CHRISTIAN, BUT SHE SAID SHE IS A CHRISTIAN AND HE BELIEVED HER AND MARRIED HER AND AFTER ALL THIS BEGAN HAPPENING, HE THOUGHT HE COULD CHANGE HER AND ONLY GOD CAN CHANGE A PERSON WHO IS LOST. I SUFFERED A STROKE BEFORE THIS HAPPENED AND WHEN I GOT THE BABY, I HAD NO TROUBLE IN KEEPING HIM BUT HIS OLDER BROTHER IS SO JEALOUS OF HIM AND DOES NOT WANT THE BABY TO HAVE ANYTHING, SO EVERYDAY IS A HARD DAY. I HAVE PRAYED GOD WOULD GIVE ME COMPASSION TOWARDS THIS AND I GET ANGRY AND SO IMPATIENT WITH THIS CHILD. SINCE MY SON THINKS HIS WIFE WILL BE OUT OF JAIL BEFORE HE GETS OUT, HE WANTS THE CHILDREN WITH THEIR MOTHER, BUT CPS WILL NOT ALLOW IT AND I KNOW IT IS HARD FOR MY SON TO KNOW IT IS BECAUSE OF HER ABUSE TOWARDS THEM THAT THE TWINS WILL NEVER BE PUT BACK IN THEIR HOME AND HAVE ASKED MY DAUGHTER AND I TO ADOPT THEM. WE KEEP THEM TOGATHER ALL THE TIME AND THEY HAVE GROWN CLOSE...WE HAVE HAD THE OLDER CHILDREN FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS. MY SON HAD CUSTODY OF THEM BEFORE HE WAS PUT BACK IN JAIL BY HER PARENTS. I KNOW MY REQUEST SEEMS TO BOUNCE, BUT I AM SO UPSET WITH ALL THIS THAT I CAN HARDLY THINK. PLEASE PRAY THE OLDER BROTHER WILL COOPERATE AND THAT HE WILL TALK BECAUSE HE CANNOT TALK AND HE ONLY WANTS ALL THE ATTENTION THAT IS HARD TO GIVE WHEN I ALSO HAVE THE BABY. HE DOES SAY WORDS WHEN HE WANTS TO, BUT MOST OF THE TIME HE WANTS TO BE THE BABY AND HURT HIS LITTLE BROTHER. HE HAS NO REMORSE WHEN HE HURTS SOMEONE AND OFTEN TRIES TO HURT HIMSELF. HE DOES NOT ACCEPT L;OVE ONLY WHEN YOU GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS. MY SON TOLD US THAT EVERYTHING WAS GIVEN TO HIM EVEN WHAT BELONGS TO THE OTHER CHILDREN AND THE MOTHER GAVE HIM EVERYTHING EVEN THE CHRISTMAS PRESENTS WERE OPENED BY HIM THAT BELONGED TO THE OTHERS. HIS MOTHER GAVE THEM TO HIM TO OPEN WHILE THE OTHERS WATCHED HIM. NOW HE THINKS HE HAS TO HAVE EVERYTHING AND GOES INTO A RAGE WHEN HE DOES NOT HAVE WHAT HE WANTS. I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO COPE WITH HIM. I DO NOT WANT TO RAISE THE OLDER BROTHER BECAUSE I DO NOT HAVE PATIENCE WITH HIM AND NO MATTER HOW I TRY, IT IS OF NO USE. I HAVE FOUND MYSELF PROTECTING THE BABY FROM HIM AND IT HURTS THAT I CANNOT ENJOY BEING THE OLDER CHILD'S GRANDMOTHER. I BELIEVE GOD CAN DELIVER AND I NEED PRAYER THAT THIS CHILD WILL BE DELIVERED FROM THE ABUSE THAT HAS CAUSED HIM TO BEHAVE IN THIS WAY. ALSO, PRAY FOR THE BABY THAT HE WILL NOT LEARN TO ACT AS THIS CHILD DOES. THE BABY HAS BEEN RAISED WITH MY HUSBAND AND I SINCE HE WEIGHED 4 POUNDS AND NOW HE IS SO HEALTHY AND THRIVES. I JUST PRAY HIS BROTHER WILL THRIVE AND WILL ALLOW US TO LOVE HIM AND KNOW WE ARE NOT BEING MEAN TO HIM WHEN WE HAVE TO CORRECT HIM. EVERY NIGHT I HAVE TO STAY UP REALLY LATE BECAUSE HE WILL NOT GO TO SLEEP AND WANTS TO ROAM THE HOUSE GETTING INTO THINGS. PLEASE PRAY FOR US. PLEASE.

[Shammu]

Hello littlenana, and welcome to Christians Unite forum.

I believe that you are talking about Josh, Maryjane posted about him.  For Josh a second chance <--- link

As I posted there, I will for you here, yes I am praying for Josh, and his family.  I will also be praying for your family, as well.

[Mislead]

I will pray for you and your family today at church!  Stand Strong in the Lord while your patience are being tried, God
will give you deliverance.

[Soldier4Christ]

Hi littlenana,

Welcome to Christians Unite. I am glad that you came here. Know that many good Christians will be praying for your entire family in this matter.

I am far from being an expert on such things. The older boy does need counselling with an expert in child behaviour. Preferrably someone that is a Christian also. I have seen and helped deal with children like you explain him to be. This child defintely needs patience and love. He also needs to learn of Jesus. Children are never to young to learn of Jesus.

There is a method used that has been quite effective with children that show this type of rage and lack of discipline. When the child goes into a rage the child is to be taken and held in a manner that he cannot hurt himself or the person holding him. It must be done gently but firmly and while holding him tell him that he is loved over and over again but ensure him also that this behaviour is not acceptable. I realize that this is hard with your condition and with a baby to take care of also but it must be done. This is not a quick fix. It does sometimes take many times of this being repeated each time he goes in a rage along with reminding him repeatedly that he is loved at other times also.

As I said I am not an expert here but I have seen this work. I strongly suggest that you do get a counsellor for him and discuss this procedure with them to more depth.

In the meantime I will be praying for you all in this matter.

[islandboy]

Sounds like you are at your wits end. I know it is hard handling children that seem to do everything they can do get on your nerves and push your buttons. I too would suggest talking with a counselor and do a web search on problem children and you may get lucky and find other people that are going through the same difficulties that you are and you may get some much needed tips and help on this subject.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

[littlenana]

I am at my wits end because I am so tired and I do not think I have the energy it is going to take to help the oldest brother.  I have had no trouble with the baby as he has been with us since infancy, but the older son is going to have to have much care.  I took him to his appointment at MHMR.  He is going to have to have one on one.  He is  victim of failure to thrive and that is why he acts the way he does. he has no skills and will have to have medication for him not having any kind of attention span. he is all over the place. The good news is that he will have help that I am limited on giving him.  Please pray that he will responde to the treatments he will receive.  Also, please pray for me.  I become short tempered with him because he exhaust me and does not want anyone to have the attention but him and the baby needs attention since he is a baby and requires more since the baby has athesma, I give him breathing treatments.  I was told that MHMR does not bill grandparents for the treatments and that is a blessing.  Please continue to pray for us, we really need it.

[alvarez]

wow

[islandboy]

Praise the Lord. That is wonderful news.
I have a friend who has a child with a very short attention span. One thing they did at home was to get a used computer, so this child would have his own computer (not on-line), then they purchased learning and game programs that were fun to play for a child of his age group or learning ability. While at first he needed their assistance to use the computer and learn the programs, soon he would spent time learning, like reading, spelling, math, history, and playing good quality games, which gave my friend a break from his constant need of attention and he actually began to improve in his learning and behavior skills.
With medication and these other services now available to you, I pray that things will continue to improve and that your wits will get a much needed rest. I will keep you in my prayers.

[Faithin1]

I will certainly keep you and your family in prayer.  I know it's difficult, but God will help you.  Stay strong in the Lord.