On a positive note, has anyone ever heard about Stephen Benett?
http://www.sbministries.org/I heard him as a guest on a radio show once when Brokeback Mountain came out. =-) I think it is a great testimony to the fact gays can change.
A bit of a story about gay churches, when I first moved here I was scoping the churches in the neighborhood for one to go to... I was planning on going to the closest church to me, but they didn't have what time they met on a sign, so I looked to see if they have a website. Glad I looked, because it was a churh founded and run by the gay and lesbian community. :oThat would have been a bit awkward for me. =-)
We know that in order for a gay person to change, they first must come to know God's love, just as it takes for any of us to change, so I can see why a church would want to show love and acceptance toward the gay community. As Paul says, "If I speak in the toungues of men and angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal." Romans 13:1 However, i think too often people forget that love, while very important, needs to be in balance with truth, and also that there are times (such as in 1Corinthians 5) where we need to expel those among our fellowship who are unrepentant.
Someone pointed out to me once, that the 18th chapter of Matthew speaks well to this very issue. It speaks of forgiving the brother who sins against you not seven times, but seventy-seven times, but also of cutting off that which causes you to sin...