But that statement says that women have to be subject, which means they must do everything their husband says, while all men have to do is be nice...
To the contrary. Men must give an account to God for the direction their families take. God isn't being sexist. He's being God!

He even illustrates the relationship we have with one another in His Triune Person, the Trinity. God the Father is the head, God the Son is subordinate to God the Father, and God the Holy Spirit is subordinate to God the Father and the Son. None is any
less God than the other. Each has a role that they faithfully fulfill. So it is with the genders. In a church, the man is the head. Not because he is better, or any more human than the woman, but because that's how God designed things. In the home the man is the head. A wise man isn't the type who lord's over his wife, but loves, listens, and even learns from her example.