Boy, isn't that it. And you have to be so careful. Some of their fuses are pretty short.
Actually they ended up fearing me and my fuse. Actually I noticed that "people 'round town" knew that I was not to be "messed" with. this became especially prevalent when the "shop" next door to my fathers kept using our space as free parking regardless of my asking several times that they not do it. One morning when I had come in for the third time in a row and not had a place to park on my paid property I just parked right behind their vans so they couldn't get out. I ended up "blowing a fuse" on them when they still tried to back out with my car there. I waited for them to knock on the door and ask first. Then I "let em have it". This later lead to a fight with the "owner" of the business next door when he said I was "overreacting". Now mind you they had tried this garbage with my father when he was alive and he was none to happy about it. I had even asked the owner and told the drivers several times not to park there. They didn't listen and so I was quite perturbed to say the least. After that I actually just put the dumpster and other trash cans in the driveway so they couldn't use it when I wasn't there. Though they didn't mind throwing their trash in our dumpsters (to which were a high commodity when you are trying to clear out a 20 year old business. That's actually what lead to the fight with the owner. I threw his trash back on their property. They had a dumpster but were too lazy to walk over to it.)
Maybe in lieu of a will, just put specified people on as joint owners? That way that particular asset would pass to them automatically, upon death? No need for a will?(but for cost basis tax purposes, a joint owner loses the stepped-up cost benefit; i.e., he has to assign the decedent's original cost basis if he's a joint owner).
Bad idea actually because then the "co-owner" becomes responsible for a lot of things. Actually had my parents still been married or he married to his GF then either one of them would have been left with his 10's of thousands of dollars of debt. It was better this way. I actually got his 68 RoadRunner without issue because of this. He said it was so insignificant it wouldn't matter (the motor blew and so it was listed as a non functional 68 Plymouth) The lawyer in my case was a decent guy and worked for us to get what we could out of it. His attitude was to stick it to the debt collectors because they have insurance and don't really lose out too much. I'm just glad he I did as much as I did or else it would have cost a fortune. My dad's estate was an odd case. These were the lawyers words. He said he had never had a case like this before.
Yes the laws stink and everyone gets to take your money for things THEY require you to do. For instance you can't do anything with the estate until someone is declared the administrator (this means my siblings had to agree and sign off on it). This is called putting the estate in probate (now you can start to take care of things) To do this and get this lovely piece of paper and 7 copies that are "legal" cost us $325. You need these papers so you can close accounts transfer car titles (to which the state wanted one per car) and such. Every one of these papers that say nothing more than the state declares me the executor or administrator with a fancy imprinted stamp cost $10 a pop and everyone tries to claim they want one. Lucky for me the local post office just made a copy of it and all I was doing was having his mail forwarded to my house.
I found out from the lawyer that not everyone is entitled to one of these though they try and ask. The other thing you need is a death certificate and this costs $4 a pop and EVERYONE wants one of these and are entitled to them. Lucky for me I faxed a lot of them so I didn't need as many but still. you also have to pay a fee to advertise the estate (so people can come out of the wood work and claim you owe them). you have to do it in a local newspaper and the legal journal twice. That cost about $300. You have to pay a fee to submit your information to the court for review and then another fee to finalize it. So all these legal things need to be done just so you can do the things you are required to do by law. How nice.
Lawyers are expensive and I'm sure they are worse in more affluent places. I was "cut a deal" and the lawyer only charged me $200 an hour instead of $250. Mind you, when ever you call them for anything (including reminding them to do their job) the bill by the minute.
They have timers on their phone. The key is to know exactly what you want to ask, ask it and say good bye. Another trick is that every lawyer gives you a free 30 minute "consultation" before actually receiving their services. So call around and keep getting more answers before you commit to one.
This goes for anything you need to do with lawyers so keep that in mind.
Am I wrong or were you the music major, or studying music? This would all seem so far out of your interests, too. Maybe I recall incorrectly.
hehe no you would be correct. My initial idea for a career was in the music business though I had decided against strictly studying music and learning the recording end of it. This fell through as God did not have that one lined up for me, though I take responsibility for not getting there. Now I work with computers and stuff. I am quite the computer geek now. Not that anyone (including myself) thought that would ever happen.