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Hi, I am new to the site. I have an issue I must deal with and I need some advice. My fiancee & I have been living together for several years. I recently became saved (I thought I had been already, but was not really) Anyway, since becoming a true chrisitian & studying God's word & seeking Him in all things, I have become very burdened with something. My fiancee, although knowing what the Gospel is, does not want to become a Chrisitian, accepting Christ, or living according to His Commands. I don't think he understand's that He needs a Savior. I have talked to him about it, but he tells me when he is ready he will & he is Not ready. Basically tells me to leave him alone about it. He doesn't mind me talking about My faith & joy about my Salvation, however, which is good at least. But, I do not think it would be wise to marry him since we are unequally yoked & I can already see how different our view points have become on many issues. I have 3 children from a previous (abusive) relationship, but my fiancee has been in their lives since they were very young. They love him very much & he loves them very much. But I still don't feel right to marry him. However, breaking off our relationship will be very devastating to my kids, especially my daughter who has known only him as a father since she was 2 1/2. I only recently started back going to church & do not know anyone well enough to entrust them with this burden, that is why I ask for advice here anonymously.
I am not in a position to ask him to leave or to leave myself right now b/c I am unemployed & cannot afford to move out or pay bills myself. I pray for him & I know God Can save Him if it is His will to show my fiancee that Grace, but it is hard to know exactly what I should do or how to handle it, or how long I should wait. I was going to wait until I get a job & then discuss our future regarding marriage at that time, so that if we do break up, I can take care of myself & the kids on my own. I don't feel right continueing to live together for just an endless time without being married. I do not want to sin against God or go against His will. (although I have abstained from sex) I am just so torn about how to deal with this, he will be angry & hurt if I will not marry him over this issue, the hurt of my kids, and I am afriad he will blame God & turn away from Him even more. I have been saying alot, thank you all for 'listening'. I am grateful for any & all advice. God bless!
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