does your church have meetings just for men? or not either?

Just wondering...
does your church have a women's ministry?
what is it like?
how often does it meet?
do you feel edified from attending it?

hi.... so I've been reading this book, undercover by john bevere.  has anyone read it? 
Another thing, the pastor and his wife are a pastoral team, they are both pastors.
the pastor wife feels she is a "mother" to everyone....

so I guess my question is, how to develop boundaries in one's self.... I've been praying about this, i feel that our church has been working like bevere's book says in some ways... and I don't agree with everything that he says....  I think we can use the scripture to back up whatever we want to say even though looking at scripture in context it doesn't say what we "say" it says, at all....  does anyone understand what I'm saying? 

actually I dont' feel like it's that clear cut... if for example someone in our church would like to marry a nice christian girl and the leaders dont' want them to...

I realize there is a verse in the new testament that says we should obey our spiritual leaders...Heb 13:17  Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit to them: for they watch in behalf of your souls, as they that shall give account; that they may do this with joy, and not with grief: for this were unprofitable for you.
 what does that mean to you?  Do you think that that means that our pastors have the right to tell us who to marry or not to?  Where to work?  I've been having a lot of problems (in my head) with this... partly because the wife of the husband wife pastor team especially, likes to preach on this and, in my opinion, butt into every one's lives whether they want advice or not.   Do they have the authority to tell you who you can or cannot talk to?  Sorry, I hope someone has some wisdom to share with me here