Jesus loves you. Jesus loves you perfectly and unconditionally. It doesn't matter what you have done (you're only human like the rest of us) he still loves you and wants you to be with him. This situation could have happened to anyone. The devil wanted you more because you are a committed Christian. Don't let the devil win, allow the healing love and forgiveness of Christ into your life. If your husband is prepared to forgive you and make a go of your marriage, then do it, its the right thing especially for your children. Don't try to struggle with it on your own though, remember Jesus is there to help always, just ask.

I'm a British ex-pat living in Borneo

I'm feeling very isolated at the moment. In the small community where I live, there was recently a big Halloween celebration. As a committed Christian, I didn't feel I could allow my children to participate. The older two were devastated at first, but were ok once they got used to the idea. Then I discovered that out of all the children in the Sunday school we go to, mine were the only ones who hadn't been to the Halloween event. I didn't make a big deal of it, but I was very surprised, well shocked, actually, and now I feel so alone. I'm beginning to feel a bit 'weird'. I haven't allowed Harry Potter through the door either, I'm afraid I don't care how well written or entertaining they are, they promote witch craft and the bible clearly tells us that this is wrong. Is there anyone out there who feels the same? Am I really the only one?

Sister Sarah, mother of four