A great study I did that answered some of these issues, is Why Godly Peope do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore.
I would also suggest not being in church with this person at  this particular time. I would also suggest honesty with your husband immedietly.
God Bless and remember God still loves you and wants you!!

Sorry that I started this then haven't been here. I have a business that keeps me at other boards alot and 3 children so I am busy. Thanks for sharing. I agree that you have got to see yourself as God sees you. He doesn't see you as a door mat. You are hurting Him by letting your spouse walk all over you. Treat yourself as the daughter of the King. A Holy Vessle, a Princess. Thats what you are.

Oklahoma!!

Lets get a discussion going about some issues that we need to talk about or deal with !!
I will throw out some topics and someone run with it. Who is going to be the brave one.
We are women with issues, what women does't have them. By Gods Grace we are free from any bondage but in realty we choose to stay there sometimes even though we don't have too! What has a hold of you that you just can't let go of. Maybe talking about it here will help.

Sexual sins of the Past (mine)
Unfaithful Spouse
Broken Relationship with a parent or sibling (unforgiveness)
Abuse
Marital Problems (finances, cheating, intimacy problems)
Loss of a child
Rebellious Children who are lost
Guilt
Bitterness



I hope this starts a positive encouraging diologue.

Dawn

Proud Okie here!!!
Dawn

Thanks you for your sweet words all of you. In no way do I ever want the Glory to be on me speaking out, but only on what God forgave me for and the fact that Sin is Sin no matter what the degree. I also want to get across to Saved people that they can be seduced and if they are not wearing the full armor of God to be prepared for a an attack.Christians are just as capable of doing horrific things if not grounded in the word.

I have had the honor of speaking to highschool and college students about the results of pre-marital sex. I speak with women about forgiveness and letting go of our past. God has taken some nasty mistakes and used them to help others. I am so humbled!!

I am new this board and debated in my heart wether or not I should chime in. My perspective is personal as I had an abortion 10 years ago. If  the law was as it was in 1963, I would have less heartache forsure. Although God has redeemed me , I have to say from my own experience that child was and still is very real to me. In the grieving process I wrote that child a letter that I carry in my bible of apology and love. Noone can convince me that that child was anything less than a human being growing inside of me and I chose out of fear to murder him/her. I pray that I can do my part in leading young girls to understand the consequences of sin , but that having a baby that wasn't planned even though hard, is the best choice. You see 3 years later I still hadn't GOT IT and was pregnant again. I had a wonderful little boy who is now 7 and 2 others that are 4 and 2. I have a wonderful relationship with the Lord and a great ministry, that doesn't take away from what I did.
Just want you all to see the personal side. Its so easy to pass judgment as Christians and to water down the truth that is so evident in scripture.

Hi I am from Oklahoma!!!!!!!!

Glad to find such a great site!! My name is Dawn and I live in Oklahoma with my husband and 3 children. I am in womens ministry and have my own business.
Dawn