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1  Fellowship / Just For Women / Re:Am I stuck with him? on: April 09, 2005, 12:10:56 PM
I'm glad you found this forum and hope you find the answers you are looking for here.
There are alot of reasons to marry someone, but you should never marry someone out of quilt because you slept with them. Talk to God, tell him you are sorry, and don't repeat your mistakes. But do not marry someone for this reason alone. It will never work out if you marry him out of guilt. I know the guilt and shame you are feeling right now. I've been there myself. But marrying this guy will not make those feeling go away. It will only make them worse, because you will be marrying a non Christian. The saying "two wrongs don't make a right" defiantly applies in this case.
You know the decisions you have been making are wrong or you wouldn't be here asking for help. You know in your heart that God loves you, he wouldn't leave you "stuck" with someone for the wrong reasons. He will forgive you for the wrong choices you've made. Trust in him.
2  Fellowship / You name it!! / Re:What irritates you? on: April 04, 2005, 08:32:52 PM
Tom,
Thanks for the welcome.  Smiley My husbands name is Tom. I call him my Tom Cat, lol. I know it's not very original, but it's cute. Wink
3  Fellowship / Just For Women / Re:Submitting to Husbands on: April 02, 2005, 07:51:30 PM
M,
Your right. My husband does do alot of good things for me. I just tend to hold onto the bad like you were saying. There are alot of days where I do give and give and don't get anything in return, but I'm sure everyone had days like that. There are times when he can be so sweet and loving, those are the times I need to learn to hold onto.

I've only been on this forum a couple of days and I feel like it's been good for me already. I am seeing some of the things I'm doing wrong and areas I need to work on. I wish I had more Christian friends in "real life" not just on the net. It does help to bounce ideas off someone and get a second opinion. Thank you.
4  Fellowship / Just For Women / Re:Submitting to Husbands on: April 01, 2005, 07:42:40 PM
Thanks M and Mrs Chosen for the replies.  Cheesy

You both have given me some good points to think about. I'll try to answer some of the questions yall had. We have been married for 11 years. We went threw premarital counseling, plus we have been to marriage counseling twice during the 11 years we have been together.

We have had alot of issues in the 11 years we have been together. Some of them almost ended in divorce. I guess the real problem is me. I have a hard time letting go of the past. When I get hurt it takes a long time for me to trust again. It's hard to submit to your husband when your still trying to figure out how to trust him again.

I did not even realize I was holding onto these feelings until I wrote that post and read your responses. I guess what I need to do is pray that God will change my heart, and make me more like him. I need to trust again. I don't think I'll ever be able to submit until I do that.

Thanks Ladies! You really did help me out on this.
5  Fellowship / Just For Women / Re:Submitting to Husbands on: April 01, 2005, 08:59:37 AM
Here is the problem I have with this issue....

My husband believes in God. But so many of his actions do not show that. It is very hard for me to be submissive to him when I don't feel like he is doing his part. I don't think he loves me as Christ loves the church.

I do try to support him in all that he does. I also consider his feeling and needs in everything that I do. But then I find myself arguing with him over money or other issues when I feel like he is not doing what is best for us.

If I submit to my husband does that mean that I look the other way when he spends the bill money on video games? When he tells me about how he lost his temper again at work in front of customers... do I tell him that was ok, or do I tell him he is a fool and could loose his job and not be able to support us?

This submission thing is just very hard for me. I want to submit to my husband and have the kind of marriage that God intended for us. But I always find myself arguing over things with him, and most of the time I start the fight. Starting fights can't be submission, but do you blindly follow someone just because he is the man?
6  Fellowship / You name it!! / Re:happy birthday to me on: April 01, 2005, 08:02:23 AM
Happy Birthday! Grin What did you do to celebrate?
7  Fellowship / You name it!! / Re:What irritates you? on: April 01, 2005, 08:00:43 AM
Telephone solicitors because It's my private phone number! They call and interrupt my personal time at home with my family. If I need a home loan, my carpets cleaned, or any number of other things chances are I'll pick up the phone book and call someone who provides the service, I will not sit around the house and hope one calls me! I can not imagine they get much business this way.
8  Welcome / About You! / New Here on: April 01, 2005, 07:50:42 AM
Hi All! Smiley

A little about me....
My name is Ali.
I am 30 years old.
I've been married for 11 yeas.
We don't have any children yet, but we are thinking of going into foster care.
I joined this site because I don't have alot of Christian friends, and would like to make some..
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