My name is Courtney, and I have just found this forum.  My husband and I are in desperate need of prayer.  

I have been with my husband, Josh, for 8 years, and we have a 3yr old son.  We are both in our mid 20's.  We have had our share of ups and downs, as every marriage does... but I love him with all of me, and I know he still loves me.  

To sum up my situation- About a week ago, my husband got up and left my son and I.  He just left.  He said he's found someone that makes him happy (he knew her before I believe, and left me to justify pursuing a relationship with her.)  
He says he feels this is where 'life has taken him.'  We are both Christians.  In one breath he says this is God's plan and the next he says he hopes God will forgive him.  He keeps telling me he's so happy, but in his words I hear him struggling to justify his actions to himself.  
I truly believe that God's plan is for us to be together, and although He works in 'mysterious ways', I don't believe His plan would include my husband to abandon his family and commit adultry.  That is called free will.
I am very close to a nervous breakdown, and all I hear from the people around me (non-Christians) is that this happens every day.  I know this happens every day.  My mother was divorced twice.  I don't accept that.

I don't know if any of this makes sense.  It's hard to put everything going right now in words.  I am tired.  I am tired of crying.  I am tired of hurting.  One minute I can breath, and the next I feel like I've been burried alive.  

Here are the questions I have:
Although we have free will, and obviously make mistakes- will God intervene and show us the way back? -I know my husband can hear the Holy Spirit inside of him, telling him he's wrong.  That is why he is struggling.  He just won't listen.

How can I help?  -I am hurt in more ways than I could ever imagine, but have made it clear to my husband that I love him and I'll forgive him.  I don't know if I should back off and let him find his way back, or if I should keep telling him this is not what God wants.  He has a lot of negative influences that I feel I am against.

How long do I wait?  -Not that I am impatient, but waiting forever is a very long time.  I am praying with faith that my husband will come home.  At what point should I just realize he's not?  I want to have true faith and know in my heart that God will lead him back- but if my husband never finds his way back... how long do I wait?  How long do I have faith before accepting the situation as it is?

I have a ton of questions floating around in my head, most of which I haven't realized yet.  Please, anyone that can help, offer support, or just tell me it will be okay... please do.  I am desperate.

I am asking for prayers that my husband will find the Lord and the truth again.  He is not listening because the devil has blinded and deafened him.  I don't know how to get through to someone who can't see and hear.  I am praying with all I've got, but this is bigger than me.  He is lost.  His soul is lost.  Also, I ask for prayers for me- For direction, and that I may hear what God is trying to tell me.  Please pray for my emotional and physical state.  I haven't been eating or sleeping.  I feel so lost because my husband is lost.  I am fighting with the loss of my husband, loosing him to another woman, and loosing him to the devil.  Please pray for us.
~Courtney