Hi and welcome to the forum.
First of all I want to ask you to please be more careful with your language even when you are quoting someone else.
>Sorry, I just wanted to show the full truth.
It sounds like you are in need of a good family counselor. I suggest that if you don't have a church that you attend that you search for one and get some counseling with the pastor there. One on one is much better and more effective than seeking it out with people over the internet.
As I said it is difficult to counsel someone over the internet but from what I can gather from your post here is that you are quite upset
> Upset? I am very hurt. But I did not let it out as anger or being upset - I was always calm, truthful, gentle. Was there something that I did that suggests anger or being upset? They made the same comment, and it was always when he was very angry and I simply took it quietly.
with others judging of you. A person needs to be confident enough in themselves that no matter what someone else says that they can just let it go.
> Yes, I agree. I always forgave them, visited them, brought presents and complemented them, on their home and family. But still it continues and I wonder how I can make it stop.
Yes, it may hurt especially when it is someone that you care about. Still be confident enough in who you are that you don't let it effect your own actions or words
>Yes, I agree. Was there something that I said or did that seemed otherwise?
and you can let it roll off your back. This is not to say that you shouldn't do anything at all about it. If they are lying about you then let your own actions and theirs to tell the truth instead of verbally objecting each and every time. Doing this will certainly cut down on the arguments and hard feelings from them.
Mat 18:21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Mat 18:22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
I am not saying that this situation is all your fault. Rather it is usually that it is a little bit of fault of everyone involved.
> Yes. And I still wonder if there is something I could have done differently that would have been better for me to do.
First of all I want to ask you to please be more careful with your language even when you are quoting someone else.
>Sorry, I just wanted to show the full truth.
It sounds like you are in need of a good family counselor. I suggest that if you don't have a church that you attend that you search for one and get some counseling with the pastor there. One on one is much better and more effective than seeking it out with people over the internet.
As I said it is difficult to counsel someone over the internet but from what I can gather from your post here is that you are quite upset
> Upset? I am very hurt. But I did not let it out as anger or being upset - I was always calm, truthful, gentle. Was there something that I did that suggests anger or being upset? They made the same comment, and it was always when he was very angry and I simply took it quietly.
with others judging of you. A person needs to be confident enough in themselves that no matter what someone else says that they can just let it go.
> Yes, I agree. I always forgave them, visited them, brought presents and complemented them, on their home and family. But still it continues and I wonder how I can make it stop.
Yes, it may hurt especially when it is someone that you care about. Still be confident enough in who you are that you don't let it effect your own actions or words
>Yes, I agree. Was there something that I said or did that seemed otherwise?
and you can let it roll off your back. This is not to say that you shouldn't do anything at all about it. If they are lying about you then let your own actions and theirs to tell the truth instead of verbally objecting each and every time. Doing this will certainly cut down on the arguments and hard feelings from them.
Mat 18:21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
Mat 18:22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
I am not saying that this situation is all your fault. Rather it is usually that it is a little bit of fault of everyone involved.
> Yes. And I still wonder if there is something I could have done differently that would have been better for me to do.