Hello faithgirl,
Welcome to Christians Unite forums. I do hope that you will enjoy your time here.
Abuse can be a very difficult thing. No matter how slight it can and usually does advance to a very dangerous situation especially when that person fails to recognize that they have a problem.
I am sure that God would not want us in a position where we are purposefully placing ourselves in harms way for no good reason. It is especially true when children are involved. As parents it is our responsibility to take care of and protect our children. If they are being harmed then we should do what we can to remove them from that harm.
I am sure that God would not want a woman in a perilous marraige or for her child to be abused. Jesus said hHimeslef It is better to havea millstone placed around your neck than to harm one of these little ones.
Faithgirl