Thank you for your prayers. I wanted to update you. Nick, my husband, has left today for 4 to 5 weeks out of state to a job.  It is still hard, but I have been working on my relationship with the Lord, my girls and my business. Which is what the Lord is telling me to do. And to continue to pray for my husband and marriage. He continue's to say that him and his affair are just friends, and decided to distance themselves, but they spent all day sunday together. And he tells me I am reading into it. That he has repented, and is growing in God. I don't really understand that, and when I say something to him about his continued aldulterous affair, I am judging him he says, and I don't know they are just friends, but seems he is putting her before his family, you would think since he hasn't spent more than two hours with his girls he would have spent the day with them. So at this point, I really can't have a conversation with him. He has said he has given it to the Lord. But continues to talk and be with her and have feelings for her, isn't that an oxy-moron. I can't change him, which I am realizing, only God can in his time. He said he can't help his feelings for her.  I have forgiven him, I just don't understand his thinking, he turns things around to benefit himself it seems to me. Recently found out he took her ice skating and to his house with my girls present. Does anyone have advice?? I know I need to give all of this to God, and with my husband gone I hope it gets better, because his affair isn't in my face everyday. Since he was here everyday, he said to see the girls, but wasn't spending time with them only me. He states he loves me and cares about me and is still attracted to me. But does he not know he is still having an affair. I know this situation will mold and shape me into God's image, and to rejoice in the trials. I put my faith in God.  What do you think about my husband is he so blinded by sin and lust that he can't see what he is doing? Thank you again for your prayers and for listening.

Thank you for the prayers.  We had a long talk on Tueday, and it was nice to talk. And yesterday he asked me to lunch, and bought me flowers and a card, but went to dinner with the women he is having an affair with.  I went to one of my pasters for counseling, and it did help, he told me that the affair needs to stop, and that until it does he is not aloud to come over anytime he wants, and he is not aloud to see the girls. He can't be living two lives. So I told this to my husband, who in turn, was mad and yelling.  I am so confused. I have been having good days, seeking the lord, and the good thing that has come to this situation is that I have become closer to God, and I am so excited about that.  Now my husband is mad, doesn't want to meet with the paster, and says that I am putting the girls in the middle of this, but didn't he do that. I am going to keep praying for him, and grow in Christ, and teach my girls to do the same.  Please keep me in your prayers, I know that satan is attacking us, but I am not going to let him.

I found my way to this site. I am in desperate need.  My husband and I separted right after Christmas, before that about a month, he was doing stuff that wasn't normal, going out after work not coming home until late. Just drifting apart from me. He told me that he wasn't sure he was in love with me. For the past couple of years we have been drifting apart. But neither one of us was putting our marriage first, him with work, me with our two girls. ( they are 7 and 12, and we have been married for 12 years).  So let's skip to last week, when he tells me that he has lost his job, and he has never been fired from a job, he seems to put work first, and the next day he tells me he is having an affair, with a girl that goes to our church, whom he met when she volunteered at his work, and that they have been having a sexual relationship for about a month.  He also tells me it is no longer sexual, but they talk all the time, see one another and text each other.  He says he is sorry. And tells me she is his only friend he has to talk to and doesn't want to stop talking to her. Oh the day before he told me he lost his job we went to group counseling.  Now we are both born again christians, and he knows this is wrong. He thinks maybe we should get a divorce, but is wishy washy. We do have a counseling appointment with one of the pasters on friday.  I know I need to trust in the lord and give it to him, but it hurts so bad.  I love him so much.  This past monday he was going to kill himself, but he said God saved him from that. I am so overwelmed. I know the lord will light our path. But has anyone else gone through this, or any advice.  Please pray for us and our two girls.