I'm pretty good friends with this guy, whom I've also liked since I met him 3-4 years ago. At first, what I felt for him was just a childish, obsessive crush; now that we're better friends, I love him very much as a brother and friend, him being a Christian as well. My problem is that I'm not sure whether or not I should admit to him that I like him. We're both in the 12th grade, so we're making plans for college. So, having a boyfriend or dating is the last thing on my mind, since we'd probablly wind up breaking up bc of college. A mutual friend told me that he doesn't want to go out with anyone anyway bc he keeps hurting his girlfriends by being "too focused on God," though I don't understand why they'd expect him not to be more focused on God than on them, or how one could possibly be "too" focused on God. Last Sunday, our pastor (his dad actually) was preaching about the importance of being honest with people, and he said that not telling someone the truth/not telling them the whole truth is just as bad as lying. So, does that mean not telling him how I really feel is as bad as lying to his face that I have no feelings for him? Whereas I had no intention on admitting my feelings for him before, I've started wondering if I should confess, simply for the sake of being truthful. The main reason I didn't want to tell him was because it would hurt if he said he doesn't like me that way, and it might make our friendship awkward, but being honest with him is worth the risk, isn't it? Thanks and God Bless to any who can help!
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