#kids:  4 (19, 17, 6, 4) and 1 beautiful 7-month-old granddaughter!!!

Favorite colors:  green, blue

Favorite foods/snacks:  Anything with chocolate (especially if it includes peanut butter)!!!

Favorite Verses: Matthew 7:7

Ministry you are involved in:  Volunteering at a home for women & children

Woman from Bible you most relate to/why:  Can't decide!

Praise God for... EVERYTHING!!!!  Good friends, healthy children, all I need.

Thanks so much to all three of you for your wonderful advice and words of encouragement.  I appreciate it soooo much, and I am feeling a little better about the situation now,thanks to prayer and all of you.  I still don't know how this will end, but I feel hopeful now and believe God will get me through this one way or another.  I want to apologize to you, Pastor Roger, for assuming your intentions were not in my favor, and for my hasty answer.  I understand now that your intentions were to give me the advice I had asked for, and I appreciate your response.  Thanks again, and God Bless all of you!

Pastor Roger:  I felt compelled to respond to your post.  First, I would like to say that I am quite aware of the fact that my husband and I were both living in sin at the time of the incident in question, and I am not proud of that fact.  Yes, I may be looking for a way to make myself feel better or justified in leaving him (although my decision has not yet been made) because I feel trapped and tricked by the person who is supposed to love and honor me. If that reaction is wrong or sinful, I hope God will deal with me regarding that - I am only human and am responding with human emotions.  At the time of our marriage, we were supposed to be starting a new life together and we both made a conscious choice at that point to turn away from our old lives and toward God as we both felt the weight of the sinful life we had been living.  There were confessions and bearing of our souls and we came to a mutual decision to marry and go forward in our relationship the right way rather than to continue in the sinful life we were leading or go our separate ways altogether.  My husband chose at that time to omit the fact that he had done this, and he knew perfectly well that I would most likely have chosen to move on without him had I known.  As far as whether or not he has been faithful since we married (even though it was a rhetorical question) I honestly do not know.  I have had suspicions and now I don't trust him at all.  In any case, I was looking for love and support from this forum (which should accompany any useful advice if it is to be well taken) and I feel that you were instead very abrupt and judgmental.  You may be perfectly on-target in your advice (Biblically speaking), although I happen to live in a no-fault divorce state as far as the legal end of things goes and was not seeking advice regarding whether or not I have legal grounds for a divorce (as I already know I do).  However, you may want to soften the method in which you deliver your advice in the future as I personally was very hurt and offended at a time when I am desperately reaching out for someone who can offer understanding and compassion, as I believe Jesus would do regardless of whatever advice he had to deliver.  Thank you.

Hello.  I am trying to get some sound, Biblical advice from a fellow Christian who is fairly knowledgeable in this area.  I recently (2 mo. ago) found out my husband cheated on me just a few days before we were married.  At the time we were neither one saved, had been living together for about a year and a half, and I was pregnant with his child.  I am having a difficult time dealing with this since we have been married for 7 years now and have 2 children together, and we have both become saved and very involved in a church since that time, and he never willingly confessed this to me.  I feel I have been betrayed in the worst way possible and lied to for 7 years.  I am wondering what my options are as a Christian as far as divorce.  We were not married at the time the infidelity occured, but were in a commited relationship and had created a life together, so I'm curious as to how this would fit into the "reasonable cause for divorce due to infidelity" thing, or if it would fit at all.  I am very hurt and don't know whether I can continue in this relationship.  My trust has been destroyed and I no longer feel that I even love my husband.  I thought he was different and it turns out that he was not.  Can anyone help please?  Thanks!