Hi everyone,
I was browsing the net and came across this wonderful site this morning. A lot of the topics you all discussed here really hit close to home. I couldn't miss out becoming part of this forum. I am sorry for greeting you all with my problem. Yet I feel compelled to ask for help.
I have been going to church for years. I am ashamed to admit that I have been really backsliding pretty much eversince I was baptized. Especially for the past 2 years, eversince I started dating a non-Christian guy. I am not blaming him for what'd happened to me. I only have myself to blame.
It started out really casually. We were classmates. We did homework and study together. We grew to like each other more than just friends. A close friend from church warned me not to play with the fire. Yet, I assured him that I wouldn't fall in love with him, and I would only test the water because I never dated anyone before.
To make the long story short, I'd drifted farther from God. I've even given myself to him, needless to say, to much of my own disappointment, grief, regret, and shame. I hide none of those feelings from him. He knew how I felt like a failure, hypocrite, and not worthy of His mercy.
When I recently told my friend (who knows the sin we committed) about him marrying me in the future, he told me not to marry because I felt that he owed me. He told me not to look at the marriage as a way of reimbursement of what I've lost.
My boyfriend is not a bad guy. He is sweet and lovable. I do enjoy being with him. However, I want us to marry based on love, not because I felt like no other guy would marry me because I've been tainted, a feeling that keeps on haunting me.
I hope my experience would be a lesson to learn from, instead of a stumbling block for any of you. I thank you for your advices and supports in prayers.
Hi dear one. I believe it was Paul who tells us not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. So why not ask your boyfriend to come to church with you? It may be that he gets saved. By all means stop having s*x with him. Explain gently why you think it is wrong. But dont marry him just because you feel guilty for sleeping with him. Hope I have helped.
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