I'm pretty new to the forum, and just noticed this fairly old thread. I'd like to add that teenagers need structure and limits, but many Christian parents make a major mistake by stopping there.

The key to helping a teenager grow in responsibility and in the Lord is through your relationship with him or her. Spend time talking. Listen. Encourage. Do things together. Otherwise, being strict is liable to backfire. Think of God. He clearly presents us with structure and linits, yet they are part of a powerful, loving relationship. When you talk, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Eph. 4:29)"

I completely agree both with (1) talking about it and (2) talking "with" your son, not "at" him. If you think about how you might talk with a nephew, it can help you avoid getting angry or giving parental speeches (which can do more harm than good unless you truly are following the Spirit).

Hi, tqpix,

Jeremiah 9:23-24 are also great illustrations of what really matters:

This is what the LORD says: "Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches,    (Jeremiah 9:23)

but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight," declares the LORD.    (Jeremiah 9:24)

May God richly bless your study.

Here are some thoughts that might be helpful:
(1) Recognize that lustful thoughts are common. Don't give in to them, but don't feel condemned because of them.
(2) Pray to see sin as God does ... as something awful, not something tempting.
(3) Pray to truly love people ... not to see them as sex objects.
(4) Choose wholesome entertainments (movies, videos, websites, etc.).
(5) Resisting temptation is a life-long battle, but as you grow in the Lord He transforms (changes) you!!!