Hello again, I hope I am doing this right...I am trying to post a reply to Whitehorse.  Thank you for your insight!  He has mentioned wanting to go to Hawaii for our vacation this year and I thought that was crazy because we've always tried to spend as little as possible on fun stuff.  However, it may be that he wants to do some things that he doesn't think we'll get to do as parents.  I didn't think about that at all, but it does make sense.  Thank you so much!  

Hello, I joined this forum tonight after spending hours searching for an answer to a question that I have.  I hope this isn't too long...I have been married for 3 years to a wonderful man.  Our relationship is great and we are both christians.  However, we do have one major disagreement that always leaves me in tears:  I am ready to start having children and he isn't.  We have had several long conversations about this and he says he can't explain exactly why he doesn't want children yet, but he just doesn't.  Please help me!!!  I can't figure out why he isn't ready (we are financially stable and both have good jobs).  Thank you so much for letting me join here.  I welcome anyone's opinion on this matter.