Presently I gave up working on my own websites and put to use my joy for creating christian websites for others. TeenHaven (http://www.teen-haven.net) is my first project. I'm willing to help anyone else if I feel God is laying it on my heart to do so.

I'm not what one would call an advanced designer, but I find that offering help to others helps me keep my skills up and I learn more in my attempts.

Also I am currently working on a Christian novel, but that's done in my spare time. In the foreground of my life I am in the midst of trying to get to in England by the end of this year. I'll be volunteering at a hostel that helps ladies around November or December. So I'm working on trying to raise the funds to get there. Also I hope to take a TESL course in England during my stay and move on to teaching english as a second language.

Hi, Glad you joined us! It's good to hear you have such zeal for God.

Hey,

I just joined this forum yesterday and I'm very happy that I found it! I just wanted to express how much I enjoy it. Also, how much I enjoy reading what others have to say and the compassionate replies in return.

Also I wanted to introduce myself. My name is Tameka. I was saved about five years ago. Actually my parents grew me up in Christ but I can't officially say that I accepted Jesus until about five years ago. For a good while I strayed away and then one day I returned.

I have to thank God for blessing me. He's done so much for me this year in general. My mother and I moved into a new house. And she finally got her dream home.

I'm about to do missionary work if all goes well. I just started a Christian website in which I can glorify God in my spare time. And I met the man God has in store for me some time back. So I'm very fortunate.

I just pray I continue to do what God wants and that I live a life that He approves of. And that I can give back at least twice as much as I have been given!

I was overweight in school and not many men were interested in men.

Oops... That was a bit of a blooper. Haha. I meant not many men were interested in me.

Lol.

Hey peachykeen,

I think what you're doing by waiting is great. In my experience the best matchmaking happens when we turn our backs and forget about falling in love, then God can really take hold of the situation and match you up with the right person at the right time.

I never had any romantic interests in high school and I thank God for it. And because I waited God sent me my best friend who ended up being my Mr. Right. And He did it when I was least expecting it. We were friends first. Actually I found him irritating at first... but it's funny who you fall in love with.  

I actually wrote an article when I was running another website on what I think are some smart things to keep in mind to avoid meeting. Mr. Wrong who looks like Mr. Right. Or what we all call "Mr. Almost Right."

If you're ever interested in reading it just email me (forum@free-christian-screen-savers.com) and I'll be happy to send it to you. I'm running another website now and I'll probably post it on there shortly. It may not be the best article but I think it exposes a few hidden elements of what can easily be overlooked.

I found I was lucky as I was growing up. I was never taught much about watching out for the wrong man. I was very blessed. I was overweight in school and not many men were interested in men. So that kept me out of harms way so to speak, but had the circumstance been different I might've acted irrationally when I was in school and I wouldn't have such a good story to tell.

So I like to remember that God took advantage of that situation and then gave me the smarts to wise up about it all when things got better for me

Hi LdyBluEyez79,

This answer is a little late and may not even be a very good one but I thought I'd comment anyway. These might be good scriptures but I'm not sure you need to use scriptures (more below):

"Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding." --Proverbs 4:7

"Get wisdom! Get understanding! Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth. " -Proverbs 4:5

I believe the person you are talking about is what is called a "formalist," but since I know very little about it I can't say much on that subject. Except that I believe it means that he's taken a "formal" approach to being a Christian which can be a sin in itself.

He sounds like he has very little spiritual understanding (compassion) which in my experience at least is what leads to Christian arrogance. We can use Jesus as an example of how understanding is the best way to use one's wisdom. Jesus had every reason to treat us like how that person sounds like he is treating you yet Jesus' understanding and compassionate nature was equivalent to His intelligence. So He had the right amount of both. So He was perfect in attitude and spirit.

I think the best way to approach someone who uses a formal attitude in Christ is to use Christ's spiritual attitude in return. This person is apparently lacking that type of "Christ" personality. And if anyone has an excuse to be like that it would've been Jesus.

So if anything I think Jesus serves as a good example to bring up if an example is needed. Not necessarily biblical quotes.

I've often heard that biblical stories have the biggest affect on people... maybe using Jesus as an example would soften this person's spirit up a bit but making known that even Jesus did not act like he is acting.

Hey paquita,

Hopefully this will help a little...   Usually loosing one's footing with staying in Christ happens gradually. It's the small things that one questions that one has to look out for.  A good thing to always keep in mind is to ask yourself something like "would Jesus listen to this or would he be involved in this?"

But to be more accurate I think your question can have two answers depending on the way one looks at it. It is my guess that it is best not to be involved in it in a way that you are a part of it (or sucked into it). But it is acceptable to learn about it under conditions in which you educate yourself about the things that are wrong with it. In order to teach yourself and others about the hinderances that a subject like that could contribute to a person's spiritual growth.

A good example would be that Jesus was very much involved with sinners when he was here on earth, but he himself was not a sinner. He was involved in order to offer us life instead of death.

I hope that helped. Thanks for asking such a brave question!

I would like to also add a little something concerning adultery being an acceptable reason for divorce that an evangelist also said to me that makes it a little clearer. She said that adultery is an acceptable reason for divorce, but if it was a mistake and you can forgive the person and stay married God would prefer that. But if the person has made a lifestyle out of being an adulterer those are more along the terms in which getting a divorce from an adulterous mate are acceptable. But of course like most people stated God dislikes divorce. Committing adultery once out of a moment of weakness is different than a mate making a bad habit out of it. Neither are excusable of course, but if you can keep the marriage bound together by forgiving that mate then that would be good.