thanks and God bless you,

Penny

thank you for the response and yes I only want the person that God has pick out for me if that is his will for my life. all I know I must be patient and wait and see on the Lord and focus on school even though I do desire a mate and that I go through loneliness at times but I know married people go through that also and God is with me sometimes it seems God is silent on certain prayers like praying for a mate but other prayers like for my family , school and even for the sick they get answered maybe I am, just praying the wrong way or it's not the right tiime . GBU and thanks for all your help,

Penny

is there a reason on why i have never had a serious relationship since i am 38 and i have missed out in things in life I've been close but something always goes wrong or the fact i mention attending church and being a Christian. but the guy who is married did not walk away from me i do hope from my kindness by me being myself put some effect into his life and things are better for him i hope he has turn to God. because i walked away from him but it seem after i did that he did not want to let me go because the feelings he had for me. that was hard for me to do since i was the one who always got dump and this time i had to be the one to walk away from the situation i just still do not understand why a person who is married would pursue another  and especially ask someone if there plans in the future where marriage and kids i will never understand why he ask me that. i guess i miss just having someone to talk with not the personcause i do not miss him after what he did to me. thank you for the prayers GBU all , Penny

thank you for all the prayers I do get lonley sometimes being away from my family and desiring to having a mate. GBU Penny

thank you all who replied.

Penny

 :)Yes I need your prayers. Last year I went through something that broke my heart a guy that I had met in college whom I liked I found out he is married which he did not tell me from the very beginning. I know its been a year and God did protect/ healed me but it still hurts I feel like I will never trust another guy again and I do not know if God wants me to meet someone or not my heart desires marriage and family but I have stopped praying for that I am a afraid right that If I do meet someone I will get hurt again.  I am trying to trust God and not have any doubts. But I am 38 never been married or had a boyfriend which I have moved recently living in a new area and attending a new school and I have about one year left.  i just want to do Gods will. Thank you and God bless you,   

thanks for the prayer/ advice it just hurts right now and that i still sometimes think about this guy and how much he made me happy/ brighten my day everytime i saw him. the peace and how i wanted to be a better person cause people saw a changed in me and now i have emptyness i just hope i feel happy again.

i am watching myself and not getting too close. the problem is friends (guys) of mine would watch how he acted around girlsall this guy would do would say hello so would he go out of his way to talk and act really interested in me thanks for the prayers.

prsawyer

 i  met a guy in college and he approached me first and went out of his way for me to notice him. he asked me a lot of personal questions like if i'm married , bf want children and what my plans are after college which he asked more than once. he would flirt by smiling and winking with his face always lit up and he would  stare at me a lot on campus, he would do this at school where people could see. he always wanted to know what i did over the weekends. he would always let me know where and when his next class was. i would ask him what he did over the holidays and he said spent them alone does not get to spend holidays much. ok the problem is i found out from someone that he is married. the guy works a 3rd shift 30 hrs and takes 16-20 hrs at school from morning to afternoon then sleeps noon til evening and spends time with his guy friends by hanging out. so he does not spend much time at home and he lives with his parents which i know can be hard. he lives in a new area which at one time he lived alone, which i think is strange but he does not  live alone now. but this guy never push me into anything like most married men would do to a single woman. he did hint that he was interested by hinting lunch or hang out like for coffee but our school/ work schedule were different. so why would a guy act this way towards me could it be that he is unhappy at home cause everybody at school said the way he acted that he liked me and even with his friends around this guy would flirt with me and they would asked me questions like if i was involved with someone. i 'm just afraid now to talk to him i ignore him  but since i want talk with he just stares and tries to get my attention and looks very sad like he 's sorry. he acted like he wanted to say something and just could not say it when i would ask he looked like he was about to cry it just really hurts at first i was very angry but now i do not know what to do. please pray for me.  

yes last year i met a guy and we only know a little about each other and he did appraoch me first and went out of his way for me to notice him. the first semster at school i saw him often and now i just see him ocassionally his and my work/ school schedule are different. i do also keep praying to God on what to do cause this guy has gave me hints that he likes me but hes shy and i am too but were more relaxed alone together which does not come very often. and we both busy with school. i hope this helps.  

their is this guy i met at school where i go to college at were close in age and both shy. he approached me first and went out of his way for me to notice him and he asked me questions wanting to know about me like if i'm married or have a boyfriend this all happened the first semester. we did get to know a little about each other the first semester. now last semester we hardly saw each other this guy would flirt with me when i saw him by smiling and winking with his face all lit up and i usually smiled back. but if his friends or a large crowd of people this guy would get really shy and nervous and just stare at me when i was around. now a new semester has just started this week neither of us has saw one another.i would really like to get to know this guy better you know tell him i'm a christian / ask if he is a christian but i did pray to God to send me the right guy into may life and a couple weeks later this guy notice me so if God did send him to me this guy is a christian. i have observe him on campus when he does not know i'm around and is always nice and polite and considerate to others the thing i like about him is that he lets me be myself never tries to control me or even make advances towards me but does show hes interested in me and is always a gentlemen. and i hope we get to know each other more. i did tell him that my brother is a pastor which did not scare him away and one of his friends father is a minster also. but the problem is we both have different work and school schedules so we never know when we might run into each other on campus and if we do only have time to say hello/ how are ya? but this guy does manage to wink or smile at me though. i do pray about this guy and i've talked to my pastor which he said to be myself around this guy. i am myself around and i do not try to impress him you know dress nicer or wear more makeup i'm just trying to be his friend. i know that were both busy with school and this guy lives alone, his family lives in another state so he struggles like most college students work only part time so i understand if he does not have much money or clothes thats not whats important i like this guys personality the best and know more about him. really i was not looking for anyone this just happened. i just miss being able to talk to him and wish i could know him better seeing we both understand how hard college can be especially when your 30's which me and him are. also his and mine work and school schedule are different. like when i get off work he is going into work so he sleeps mid afternoon  till whenever and goes to school early morning which i do have morning and afternoon classes. me and this guy have classes at different times and different class bulidings so when we do its just in passing so all we get to say is hello but when i do this guy manages to smile and wink really big with his face all lit up. which i pray to God about this matter and give me the strength on what to do in my life cause i know college is important and i was not really looking to met anyone this just happened and i'm not wanting to rush into thing heavy just start out casual and get to know each other better.

  yes he is quiet and shy type person except when he is talking with his classmates you know guy friends he's very talkative not too reserved but when i'm around at times he will act nervous like when he would go to touch my arm or shoulder and i look at him , he pulls back and get nervous. so i do not want to be too forward and scare him away which we do flirt at school with me smiling at him and him winking/ smiling. wish i could but he takes 20 hrs at school and he works 30 hrs which is till 4 to 5 am so he is tired and i'm busy with school also and we really only see each other in passing  it would be hard to have coffee besides  with us having different schedules this semester.i'm too shy to ask him and he knows i'm shy and i do not see him eating much at the school do not want to put him on the spot, i do not know if he has to struggle with money like most college students do and this guy is not from the area he lives at now. yes i do know some things about this guy and he knows things about me. i want to take things slow seeing we just met and neither of us are going anywhere and whatever Gods will is and i have prayed on this matter as a matter of fact i prayed for God to send me a nice guy and later this guy came into my life i will just have to wait and see what happens.

thank you for the advice what do ya mean i already know this? if we could ever see each other more than just betwen classes and just smiling and winking i would ask him about sports and music. he was in the military for 6 yrs. this guy is very conservative he does not wear trendy clothes and i do not ever see him wear any sports hats or clothing and i do not see him walk around with a walkman but he is in his 30's very mature guy. i guess if i ever get the chance i will ask him about music and sports maybe sometime we will have a class together.

  I have a question how can you tell a guy likes you. i attend college where i met this guy and were both in our 30's and shy. this guy did approach me first and went out of his way to get me to notice when we see each other on campus we will flirt with each other. he will smile and wink really big with his face all lit up and i will smile back with my face all lit as well. he done things like opening the door and just being friendly to me wanting to know things about me and gentlemen in everyway. but whenever he has tried to touch my arm or shoulder and i look at him this guy will get nervous and pull back. he knows i really shy at times and i know he gets shy also. we do not see each other much we have different class schedules and with work and school we are really busy right now but we show an interest. he has also asked me more than once like where i'm going to live after college and if marriage and children are in my future. do you think he likes me?

if we can ever get a chance to where we can both sit down long enough and talk i will ask him about his faith but like today i saw him we both looked at each other i smiled and said hello all lit up, also he said hello and smiled/ winked really big with a glow also, i wear a cross necklace and it's gold it stood out cause i was wearing a red sweater so this guy could see it and he did not have a frown or ignore me.