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I have a bit of a situation that I am needing some guidance in.  I have just started a career as a traveling medical technologist and I am 1400 hrs away from my home and will be at least till the middle of May.  The very first day I started my new assignment I discovered that there was also this fellow traveler ( a guy) who instantly started talking to me, got my number and we have been hanging out from day one pretty much. So I have found though that since we are spending so much time together that I have started to develop romantic feelings for him. It gets kind of complicated because not only do we work the same hospital but also the same shift and even area together M-F. We generally hang out after work and then on Saturday take a day trip somewhere and then on Sunday we have been attending the same church.  I read the situation wrong and took what I now realize as him just being lonely and wanting someone to hang out with because he enjoys my company as a sign he liked me.  Well I made the mistake of telling him how I felt and he told me that he only liked me as a friend and that he wasn't looking for anything because we are both traveling and even if he was he wouldn't make a move because he wants to date someone closer to his hometown when he is done traveling. He lives in AL and I live in AR. I told him that I understand and thought I just wanted to let him know how I felt.  The problem I am dealing with is I don't understand why God would put a great Christian guy in my life , something I have been praying about for a really long time, just to have him only like me as a friend. I've got guy friends in my life and I am having a real hard time putting my faith in him one hundred percent and trusting that he has a greater plan for me. I know I jumped the gun and I probably shouldn't have told him how I feel because I know the guy is supposed to lead but whats done is done.  I really value this guys friendship though and I don't want things to become awkward between us since we are in close proximity all day long and attend the same church.  Do you have any suggestions on what I should do?

Hi Ash,

Welcome to the forum.

I don't mean to get your hopes up as it may never come to anything more but do keep in mind that some of the best relationships start out as just friends. The most important thing is to take your time and let things develop on their own without trying to push them. If it is meant to be then God will lead you both in that direction. When it comes to these matters and to God we shouldn't be in a big hurry. God will provide what we need in His own time. Keep faith in Him. I realize it may be hard to do but be content with such as He sees to be done.

I see this is your first post, so hello and WELCOME to the forum.


I agree completely with what Soldier4Christ told you. Pray about things and let God lead and guide you. Maybe you are meant to have many friends, and the right one will come along one day.

We're happy to have you on the forum, and I hope that you enjoy it here.