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Hello All,

I need your prayers .... you see, I am married to a nonbeliever.  Not only that, he listens to demonic music, wears clothing depicting satanism and uses language one might hear in the gutter.  (How I married him is a long long story)  Anyway, he has begun to criticize my faith.  Anytime he catches me reading christian literature or listening to christian music, he begins a tirade of "f***ing christians" and how we're all liars, cheats and thieves.  I'm disabled and have to rely on him to drive me to church on sundays - all the way there his demonic music is blasting from the stereo, when we pull into the church parking lot everyone there can here those horrible lyrics emitting from the truck.  Furthermore, he wears a t-shirt with "666" emblazoned on the back.  He used to be a Johova's Witness and now he's atheist.  I don't know what to do.  I try to be a graceful wife and live a humble existence ... I hope my example will influence him, but so far it enrages him..... Please pray for me. I don't know how to handle the situation - I can't out yell, or out cuss him.  I can't even run away because I'm in a wheelchair.

With that being said, in general he's very good to me.  Only when it comes to my faith does his ugliness show.

Blessings-

Oh dear, sorry to hear how hard things are for you. Is there a codependents support group near you? Or marriage counselling? Does anyone from the church know about this yet? I hope he hasn't started drinking excessively or taking drugs yet, but judging by his behaviour I'd consider it a definite risk.

It's hard to know what to do during this difficult time. Should you give him time to come back to faith, or should you leave him? I don't know. But either way, it's going to be difficult without support from your friends in the church.

So I pray that God gives you strength during these difficult times. I pray also that God gives you guidance. I pray that the power of the Holy Spirit is able to work through your church community to give you and your husband the support that you need, both as a couple and as individuals.

Hello!  It's nice to meet you and thanks so much for your heartfelt reply.  At one time (before I was married to hiim) my husband was a practicing Johovah's Witness - I don't know what caused him to turn his back on God altogether, all I know is that I'm being tested.  He has never raised his hand to me, but he yells and cusses a lot.  His everyday language is abominable - I cringe at most of the stuff he says.

The church knows and encourages me to stay in the marriage saying that the only reason I can divorce him is if he hits me, or if I'm afraid of him, which I'm not.  Disappointment is not grounds for divorce.  In the meantime, I'm held up in prayers and I'm growing stronger in the Lord by leaps and bounds.  Something about my husband's character, strengthens my own. . . . God's mysterious ways!

Blessings -

TalkerCat, yes I will pray for you. I will also pray for him, as well. That God opens his eyes, so he can see your path, is the only path to God.

Resting in the hands, of the Lord.
Bob

Jeremiah 17:8 For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters that spreads out its roots by the river; and it shall not see and fear when heat comes; but its leaf shall be green. It shall not be anxious and full of care in the year of drought, nor shall it cease yielding fruit.

Thank you Bob, very much.  He (my husband, Bill) needs prayer.  I will continue to be a passive, subservient wife and pray that my grace influences him..... but at the end, I'm the one that will stand before God - alone and accountable only for myself.  I cannot save Bill, I can only love him.

Blessings -

It sounds like your husband has been burned by religion. Whatever the case may be I am praying for him. You do well to stay with him. If he is willing to stay with you and is not abusing you, by all means stay with him. Do not stress over his foul language but let it be filtered out by your love for him. Love conquers all!

asaph

2Co 10:3  For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:
2Co 10:4  (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds;)
2Co 10:5  Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

Asaph, you've probably hit the nail on the head.  Something burned him on religion . . . but what could have possibly burned him on FAITH?  It is when I am resting on the Lord that my husband becomes the most vile!  I can't even come close to repeating the language he uses - one might expect to hear it in the lowest gutters of the biggest dives in the most corrupt cities. . . When my husband is cursing the Lord, he truly sounds like he's demon possessed.   :'( :o

All this haven been said, I have to also tell you that Bill is very good to me.  I have everything I need.  He never tells me "no".  He's a lot older than I, and treats me like a precious jewel.  He's soft spoken and yet, very protective.  I'm disabled and he stays at my side everywhere we go so that my wheelchair won't be bumped by someone.  He does anything I can't do on my own i.e. vaccuuming, lifting heavy objects or reaching onto a high shelf.  I've been asked before why I stay in the marriage  ??? and my reasons are plenty.  

Just because he's a nonbeliever right now does not mean he won't be saved.  I'm holding on to God - He's in control and will deal with Bill someday, and who knows?  He may already be!  

I appreciate sooooo very much the support I get from other christians.  It can be very difficult for me at times dealing with Bill's distain for God.  I pray to Father God to let my faith, my humble attitude and gracious living be an influence to Bill. . . now it's up to the will of God.  I know to whom I belong and I won't be wearing Bill's tennis shoes on judgement day.

Blessings -

Hi Terri, I think that your answer to this lies in the verses below.



Mat 13:3  And he spake many things unto them in parables, saying, Behold, a sower went forth to sow;
Mat 13:4  And when he sowed, some seeds fell by the way side, and the fowls came and devoured them up:
Mat 13:5  Some fell upon stony places, where they had not much earth: and forthwith they sprung up, because they had no deepness of earth:
Mat 13:6  And when the sun was up, they were scorched; and because they had no root, they withered away.
Mat 13:7  And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprung up, and choked them:
Mat 13:8  But other fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit, some an hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.

Yes, PR, I believe you're right - particularly 13:7. . . .

Blessings -

Talkercat, I will be praying For you and also for your husban to come to faith in Jesus as his savior.

Thank You Friarbob! and welcome to CU Forums.  I appreciate the prayers of all my new christian friends here.  

We are all created by God, but we're not all childrenof God and maybe my husband won't be chosen.  I may never know, but in the meantime I love him with the love of Jesus and I'm exercising grace and humility in my home to hopefully influence my husband's way of thinking.  Only God can soften his heart

Blessings -

It's a mystery to me why people reject true faith. Maybe your husband has not discerned the difference between true faith and religion and so he lumps them together. Pray that God will give him discernment to know the difference. He can be won over without words when he observes your gentle and quiet spirit and your purity. We know that the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the believing wife.

1Pe 3:1  Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1Pe 3:2  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
1Pe 3:3  Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
1Pe 3:4  But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

Co 7:14  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

In His time He makes all things beautiful!

asaph

I won't be giving up on Bill any time soon.  None of us is perfect and I love him, he's my husband.  Everytime he starts with the vile language or biggoted attitude, I just pray.  I pray for God to transform his mind and soften his heart. . .

Thank you all for your support.  Please keep Bill in your prayers.

Blessings and Love -

AMEN!

I am still praying for your husband, Bill.

Hello DW it's how are you feeling. I hope you are doing better.
Tell me where do you find all your jokes, I think some of them are hilarious.

Hi TalkerCat,
I agree with the above post, just release him into Gods hands, make sure that you have your full spiritual armour on. I have had the same problems to some degree. I have done spiritual battle for him and God is changing him. Your husband is sanctified by you. Keep praying for him and you will see a change. Do not lose hope.

Battle Maiden

Thank you Battle Maiden.  Sometimes I think my husband is softening, I catch him once in awhile correcting his language.  I believe he has the heart of a christian, he just doesn't live like one . .  it's really strange because sometimes he can be so kind and it's at these times that I know why I married him.  I am hanging in there, I don't plan to give up any time soon.  I appreciate everyone's support, sympathy and prayers.

Blessings -