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If the women can do this, so can us guys.

Guys:  Let's get to know each other more so we can support one another....Y'all want to answer some questions?

Number of kids:

Favorite colors:

Favorite foods/snacks:

Favorite Verses:

Ministry you are involved in:

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:

Praise God for...

Okay? I'll go first.

Number of kids: 2, 21 and 19

Favorite colors: Blues and reds

Favorite foods/snacks: BBQ country style ribs, mashed taters, and corn on the cob.

Favorite Verses:  John 3:16

Ministry you are involved in: My Church, I am an Advisor  to my Pastor.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why: Job, cause of the troubles, Ive had. By keeping my faith, God has defeated all of them problems. Well most of them.

Praise God for... Being alive, and learning to forgive.

Number of kids: Three, 2 grand children with 3 more on the way.

Favorite colors: red, white and blue

Favorite foods/snacks: steak and taters with broccoli, KFC, fried rice, homemade bread and pies, coffee, CHOCOLATE

Favorite Verses:  so many to choose from ... I love so many of them ....  primarily those concerned with the gospel.

Ministry you are involved in:  Internet Ministry, helping Veterans and active duty Military. Making quilts and clothes for the needy. Assisting parents with homeschooling. Helping kids in my neighborhood in many ways (trying to keep them out of trouble and to live a Godly life). Counciling individuals. Anything else the Lord brings my way.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:  I've never thought about this one.

Praise God for...  His saving grace, for being so merciful to me and humbling me. For using me in His way.

Number of kids:  1 Son (Age 24), 1 Daughter (Age 27), 1 Grandson (Age 5), 1 Grandson (Age 2)

Favorite colors:  Red and Blue

Favorite foods/snacks:  Too many to list - but chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes, sausage, eggs over medium, grits, black-eyed peas, cornbread, pinto beans, biscuits and gravy

Favorite Verses:  Far too many to list - but Proverbs 3:5-10, 1 Timothy 6:12, 2 Corinthians 5:7-9, Ephesians 2:8-10

Ministry you are involved in:  Internet (Web page and Christians Unite), family, friends, and a hobby that I enjoy is making various kinds of graphics for Christian friends and churches to use.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:  I admire the Apostle Paul the most, but I'm not like him. I wish that I was, specifically being a strong man of the LORD bearing all to share the Gospel of the Grace of God. My fight and race will never be anywhere near that of Paul, but I give thanks that God is using me and allows me to serve him.

Praise God for...  Far too many to list - but Godly parents who loved me and brought me up in the LORD, facing death twice and God allowing me to live, JESUS CHRIST as my Lord and Saviour who has been and is with me during trials and difficult times, a long and happy marriage with a beautiful wife, children who love the LORD, grandchildren being brought up in the LORD, an entire family belonging to JESUS, many sweet Christian friends. In short, God has richly blessed me and my family, and we are all MOST thankful that JESUS died on the Cross for us, arose from the dead on the third day, and is our LIVING LORD and SAVIOUR forever!

Number of kids:  One rebellious nearly-nineteen-year-old daughter

Favorite colors:  Wheat-sprout green, cloud-liner silver, deep sky blue, first-breath screaming baby purple – now there’s a special color!   :)

Favorite foods/snacks:  Chicken fried steak, biscuits and cream gravy followed by cherry pie and a tall ice-cold glass of milk.  Peanut butter and apricot-pineapple preserves on fresh, soft Wonder Bread with a side of Fritos.  Chili dog smothered in sweet onion.  Jumbo green olives stuffed with jalapeños.  Alaska King Crab.

Favorite Verses:  Malachi 4:1-3, Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, Romans 8:38-39

Ministry you are involved in:  Telling it like it is.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:  The Centurion (Matthew 8 and Luke 7).  No fluff with this guy.  He’s all business.  He recognizes Jesus’ power, feels greatly unworthy, and has complete faith in Him.  “Nuts & Bolts” “just do it” faith; I like that.  I can do that.  Fluff is tough.  It confounds me.

Praise God for... His sacrifice; brave American soldiers; the charity that is molded into mankind in His image; all you folks; my wife (she’s mean – but she’s mine and she loves me); liberals – they’re so cute when they’re angry…   ;D

(Sorry this took me so long to post – when I was doing the food/snacks part I had to take 17 food breaks…  go figure!)

Number of kids: Two: Son -12, daughter 13

Favorite colors: blue, navy blue, cobalt blue, royal blue, blue and gold - go Rams!!!

Favorite foods/snacks: broccoli - raw, cauliflower - raw, green cabbage - steamed, quinoa, gotcha2ake and cremini mushrooms, garlic, tomatoes any which way, royal gala apples, nectarines, pineapple - fresh

Favorite Verses:  1 Cor. 13: 4-8
                        Mat. 22:36-40/ Gal. 5:14/ Rom. 13:9/Ja. 2:8
                        Mal. 3: 10-12
                        Romans chapter 8
                        1 Pe. 2:24 / Is. 53: 3-5
                        He. 1: 8-10
                        1 Jo. 1:9

Ministry you are involved in:  Fatherhood, for now.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:  David cuz ain't no 15 foot Philistine gonna dis God to my face either. Plus, my love is fiery like David's, not gentle like John's.


Praise God for...  his mercies endureth forever!!

Number of kids: 2 girls, 1 age 7, the other age 4.

Favorite colors: red, white, black, royal blue

Favorite foods/snacks: any animal dead, cooked, processed and stuffed into an intestine...basically I like MEAT[/b]!!  Taters, steamed brocolli and cauliflower...mexican and chinese restaurants with hot and spicy stuff!  K.  Now I'm hungry!   :D

Favorite Verses: Romans 8:31-39 for starters...

Ministry: Father, singing and occassional worship leading, Wednesday night bible study, and trying to encourage, and pray for others I meet here!

Man from the Bible I relate most to and why: Peter.  Bonehead with a heart for Jesus.  Yup.  That pretty much sums me up to a T!   ;D

Praise God for: His matchless, wonderous, awesome and endless grace!

Cool idea!  Shame it took me so long to find it...

Number of kids: 2 (1 daughter and 1 Son)

Favorite colors:  All shades of Blue

Favorite foods/snacks:  Sirloin steak, Southern fried Chicken, Jacket spuds and unforunately, most sweet things

Favorite Verses: Too many to list. Love them all


Man from Bible you most relate to/why:  Peter. Peter failed Jesus and i am like that so often and yet Peter never gave up, and look at Peters life in the end. Thats what i strive for.

Praise God for... Jesus, My family and all my blessings

 ;D ;D I JUST HAD TO PEEK! ;D  ;D

Blessings and love -  :-*

TalkerCat,

;D  ;D  You are the only one allowed to peek, and everything you saw here is Top Secret! If you even think about divulging this information, you will hear a robot voice saying, "Danger, Danger Will Robinson, Danger!.  Now, we'll see if anyone here is old enough to get a chuckle out of this. AND, I guess we'll have to see if I got the quote right.  :D

Now who can forget "Lost In Space"

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Robots most frequent sayings were the one you said and "Warning, warning", "Do not touch it, it is dangerous",  "It does not compute"

and we can't forget Dr Smiths comment of "What do you mean it doesn't compute, you ninny".

 ;D ;D ;D

 :D

My lips are SEALED  :-X !!!

I believe the robot quote is correct, and he also said "Warning, Warning" yada yada

 ;D   ;D   ;D

So far, I'm relatively certain that the comments have come from folks who are no longer in their 20s. Maybe we can grin and remember when we were in our 20s. Pastor Roger, thanks for the picture. I'm laughing and thinking about whether the picture will give the younger folks a hint about what we are talking about.  ;D

You're welcome brother. The younger generation may have seen the remake of Lost in Space. It came out in 1998 as a 2 hour movie.

 :P  :P Brothers, I'm quite certain you realize that I heard of "Lost in Space" sitting on my mother's knee!!! I'm certainly not old enough to remember it!  ;)  

Blessings -

lol i can remember siting down to see it come on it was my Favorite show i am 38 and to this day i miss that show

Add ten years to your age, for mine...... ;D

i cant count that Hi lol just kidding  48

 ;D   ;D   ;D  OK, get out your calculator. Add another 9.

Then subtract 2 from that total for me.

Alert! Alert! A VERY YOUNG AND GORGEOUS  female is PEEKING AGAIN! Dont'cha just wish your age was in the lower digits, such as MINE ?!?!?!?? :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*   :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  :-*  

Just kidding!  (not!)  I love you guys!

Blessings to my aged but very cool brothers -

Thats ok Sister now tell us ur age now that you no ares lol

No, I wouldn't want to have to earn all these gray hairs all over again. It was hard enough the first time round.   ;) ;) ;D ;D

I would have gray hairs too, but Miss Clairol helps me out with that  :D

and the first time I see a wrinkle I'm gonna shoot it !  ???


Blessings -

;D The same year, I was born is your age..... ;D

You mean like these? ??? Meet wrinkles....... ;D

Oh! WRINKLES!! Come to mama, precious boy! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Blessings -

 ;D   ;D   ;D   ;D   ROFL!

Me thinks that a very good graphics artist has been loose here. I wouldn't have a clue who that might be.  ;D

I haven't a clue, either............. ;D

;D  ;D  ;D

Wow! - What is it? It looks like it has the feet of a bird, the head of a cat, some funny looking wings, and a mouth from I don't know what.  ;D  This would not be picture one would wish to look at long right before going to bed.  ;D

Attention Brothers, this is my FIRST PEEK!!!!! i'm honest but I thought I might just put in my 2cents woth since I'm already here..  ;D  

AGE The only thing to comes to us without effort. -Anonymous    ;D ;D

;D  ;D  
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I  know what that thing looks like! A PENGUIN!  It looks like a penguing thats been warped with a cat and billy bob teeth . . . . . ???

Blessings -

My age has taken a lot of work.   ;D ;D

Sorry, no billy bob teeth, those are cat teeth. ;D

 . . . . them some mighty uuuugly cat teeth!     :D  :D



Guess I better stay away from the mens' room    ~~~~~~  !!

Blessings -

Those are not a little kittys teeth. They are a BIG KITTY's teeth.

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I didn't say, what type of cat. ;D

I didn't say, what type of cat. ;D

OH NO.... they must be 'mountain-cat-shark' cat. Those are the worst. :D

Number of kids: NONE

Favorite colors: Yellow, Red, Whitw

Favorite foods/snacks: Never thought about this. I'll just eat anything

Favorite Verses: 1 Corinthians 15:55 "Where, O death is your victory? Where, O death is your sting?"

Ministry you are involved in: Music Ministry in our church. I operate the projector and I was thinking about training for Song leader or being a Youth Pastor 

Man from Bible you most relate to/why: Nicodemus because of my knowledge and curiosity I thought that being born again was impossible until I read the Bible and got answers from the Pastors on our church.

Praise God for... His calling, deliverance and love even I deserve nothing.

I can remember doing this, in my younger days............... :o

Sweet.

By the diets or eating less habit of old folks due to their high blood pressure or something, It happened to came to my mind if I want to grow old...

Another youngster.  ;) ;D ;D ;D

Ok guys scoot over let me have a seat here and hang out with you all for a little while since none of my sisters want to post in the woman's area  ::)  ;D

Sister Maria,

I didn't have any sisters when I was growing up, just two brothers. I think that I'm considerably older than you are, so I'll claim you as a baby sister just as long as you don't call me "sister."   ;D

We're already in an eternal family, so GOOD MORNING BABY SISTER!

Now, let's have a pie fight!   ;D

OK  :D :D :D :D
Make my pie real strawberries and real whipped cream and if possible just toss it (very gently so as not to mess it up too much).  ;D ;D ;D ;D

Did you say pie fight? or eye sight   ??? ::) ;D ;D

Brother, I just love it when anyone invites me to a pie fight.  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Here goes my special mud and shaving cream pie, just for you. You asked for it !!!

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 ;D   ;D

I didn't mean throw it at 60 mph. Could you slow that pitch down some?

After y'all chased Pastor Roger and me out of the womens section??  Okay have a seat sister............. :o :o

Brother I do have a baby sister, they are a pain.  :o  Y'all wouldn't believe what all they get away with. :o :o :o

Okay here y'all go sister.................................. ;D ;D ;D ;D

I never chased y'all outta there, maybe some of the other sisters that don't even go there anymore did.  :o

'sides it gets kinda lonely being in there all by myself, sometimes the only posts that get put there are mine and they stay there till I put up a new one  :( :( :( :( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

WHERE IN THE WORLD ARE THE SISTERS????????

On vacation??

I'm saving all my vacation days!!  ;)
I know I will have plenty to time and enery and things to do in Heaven, and best of all it won't cost me a cent. Jesus already paid for my entrance and all other needs  :D :D :D :D

Isn't there a song called, "All By Myself"?  ;D

Yup and it was sung by a man so there  :P :P :P :P

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nana nana nana

ROFL you're killing me with that gecko or whatever he is  ;D ;D ;D

Number of kids:

Favorite colours: red

Favorite foods/snacks: chocolate chocolate chocolate

Favorite Verses: John 3 16

Ministry you are involved in:

Man from Bible you most relate to/why:

Praise God for...life

Another Chocolate lover  ...   ALRIGHT!


 ;D ;D ;D ;D

 ;D ;D ;D  I'm baaaaccck  ;D ;D ;D ;D

I snuck in thru the back door  ;D


4 mine 2 Stepdaughters, 14 grandchildren  :D

Blue  :)

pineapples, stawberries, grapes, yougurt.

Re 21:4 "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away."

translating from English to Spanish for South American countries


David, because I mess up almost as much as he did, then I have to bring y mess to God so He can clean me and it up.

Praise God He is good and never turns me away..

David, I know this is for men only, but you can retailate and visit the Woman's Forum  :D :D :D

Re 21:4 "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away."

Second thought that is my verse

AMEN I am looking forward to that.  :D

Hello Brother David,

There are many beautiful portions of Scripture that describe what eternity will be like for the children of GOD. I can safely say that I know it will be beyond the imagination of man, and I like to think about it often. Here's another one from Revelation that I love:

Revelation 21:23 NASB  And the city has no need of the sun or of the moon to shine on it, for the glory of God has illumined it, and its lamp is the Lamb.

JESUS HIMSELF will be our LIGHT. We are really only given glimpses of the beauty of eternity, but we can know who rescued us in this short life, and we can grow strong in JESUS.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Revelation 21:10 NASB  And he carried me away in the Spirit to a great and high mountain, and showed me the holy city, Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God,

Revelation 21:11 NASB  having the glory of God. Her brilliance was like a very costly stone, as a stone of crystal-clear jasper.

Revelation 21:12 NASB  It had a great and high wall, with twelve gates, and at the gates twelve angels; and names were written on them, which are the names of the twelve tribes of the sons of Israel.

Revelation 21:13 NASB  There were three gates on the east and three gates on the north and three gates on the south and three gates on the west.

Revelation 21:14 NASB  And the wall of the city had twelve foundation stones, and on them were the twelve names of the twelve apostles of the Lamb.

Revelation 21:15 NASB  The one who spoke with me had a gold measuring rod to measure the city, and its gates and its wall.

Revelation 21:16 NASB  The city is laid out as a square, and its length is as great as the width; and he measured the city with the rod, fifteen hundred miles; its length and width and height are equal.

Revelation 21:17 NASB  And he measured its wall, seventy-two yards, according to human measurements, which are also angelic measurements.

Revelation 21:18 NASB  The material of the wall was jasper; and the city was pure gold, like clear glass.

Revelation 21:19 NASB  The foundation stones of the city wall were adorned with every kind of precious stone. The first foundation stone was jasper; the second, sapphire; the third, chalcedony; the fourth, emerald;

Revelation 21:20 NASB  the fifth, sardonyx; the sixth, sardius; the seventh, chrysolite; the eighth, beryl; the ninth, topaz; the tenth, chrysoprase; the eleventh, jacinth; the twelfth, amethyst.

Revelation 21:21 NASB  And the twelve gates were twelve pearls; each one of the gates was a single pearl. And the street of the city was pure gold, like transparent glass.

Revelation 21:22 NASB  I saw no temple in it, for the Lord God the Almighty and the Lamb are its temple.

Revelation 21:23 NASB  And the city has no need of the sun or of the moon to shine on it, for the glory of God has illumined it, and its lamp is the Lamb.

Revelation 21:24 NASB  The nations will walk by its light, and the kings of the earth will bring their glory into it.

Revelation 21:25 NASB  In the daytime (for there will be no night there) its gates will never be closed;

That is a beautiful verse, David. We know that we will be able to leave these broken bodies and be able to be joyous in the presence of our Lord and Saviour.

Well I had to think about posting in here what with all the pies flying around. What's with that? I've seen pie throwing on other sites too.

Anyway, since I'm not on here very often I might as well try to get the thread back on track.

Number of kids: none

Favorite colors: Midnight blue

Favorite foods/snacks: McDonald's chicken nuggets

Favorite Verses: My wife and I used this on one in our wedding - 1Jo 4:19  We love him, because he first loved us.
the following is my life verse, since I work the midnight shift as a security officer -
psalm 127:1b... Unless the LORD guards the city, The watchman keeps awake in vain.


Ministry you are involved in: church choir

Man from Bible you most relate to/why; Barnabas, because he was the son of encouragement, and my spiritual gifts lie in that area.

Praise God for...
A good steady job with good health benefits, especially since the recent news from Ford, and the 3 plants in my area that are going to be closed.

Amen Smokey The Dog!

I'm a retired police officer, so I've thought many times about the watchman. I also remember countless times that I prayed with fellow officers at the beginning of a shift or before a dangerous assignment. I also remember countless times that I knew that GOD was with me, and I was never alone. I have no idea what that 25 years would have been like without JESUS CHRIST as my Lord and Saviour. I still give thanks that the majority of the department I served on were Christians. I will be praying for you.

Reference the pie fights, that's just a little bit of fun, and we only throw the highest quality pies that really taste good.   ;D

Love In Christ,
Tom

1 John 1:1-4 NASB  What was from the beginning, what we have heard, what we have seen with our eyes, what we have looked at and touched with our hands, concerning the Word of Life -- and the life was manifested, and we have seen and testify and proclaim to you the eternal life, which was with the Father and was manifested to us -- what we have seen and heard we proclaim to you also, so that you too may have fellowship with us; and indeed our fellowship is with the Father, and with His Son Jesus Christ. These things we write, so that our joy may be made complete.

Number of kids: 2, ages 6 and 12

favorite colors: Like PR it is the Red, White, and Blue

Favorite foods/snacks: I almost think there are almost more favorite foods than there are favorite verses :)  Beef/potatoes/peas/corn on the cob/tuna stuffed tomatoes/calamari/and so much more

favorite verse: James the entire book

Ministry you are involved in: Sunday School Teacher, School Board, Missions Board, Sound booth, Usher, and anything else that God leads me to do.

Man from Bible you most relate to/why: Have never really given this one much thought.  On a quick answer it would be James because he and I seem to think very much alike.

Praise God for Outside of saving a sorry man like me.  My family.  I could have not asked for a more perfect gift while here on earth. 

Amen Brother Jerry!

You are another rich man in the things of CHRIST!

Hi everyone in Just for Guys


Number of kids:  7   :o

favorite colors:  maroon, green, red, yellow,  I could keep going but I'd run out of colors   :D
   
Favorite foods/snacks:  pizza, burgers, steak & potatos, fried chicken, meat loaf, spinich, cookies, cookies cookies, more cookies

favorite verse:  Romans 8:28-39   ;D
 
Ministry you are involved in: just to my kids  :D

Man from Bible you most relate to/why: must be Peter, so many times he does things before thinking about it.  ;D  ;D  ;D 

Praise God for  knowing me so intemately, yet still loveing me, and the salvation of my kids, and His ability to hold us and keep us in His hands, just having my darkened heart opened to His loving heart

Glad to be here!    ;D

love in Christ,
Bill   

Amen Brother Bill!

Every day is THANKSGIVING!

 :o  - 7 Children - you've got your hands full and your work cut out for you.   ;D

I would say that if you have hamburger to put in the hamburger helper that you are blessed. I do remember times when my wife and I were young that we had helper helper.   ;D

Love in Christ,
Tom

Philippians 3:8-9 NASB  More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith,

Hi Tom,

I had my hands full.  Unfortunetly I no longer am residing at home with my wife and kids.  We have been seperated for the last 6 to 7 years.  I took abuse classes at her request and learned so much.  It's been 3 years since I left the classes that I took for two years.  Debbie, my wife, says she can't trust me.  I've tried to restore our relationship but she insisted all along that I haven't changed deep down inside.  I've given up hope that we'll ever be restored to each other.  Not given up hope in God though.  Debbie and I have been married 22 years including the years of seperation.  I've talked about a divorce possibly next year, but she has asked me to wait another year to help get the finances in better shape. And to help her prepare the workforce.   

I would greatly appreciate your prayers.  And all who read this.  Thanks

love in Christ,
Bill   

Brother Bill,

I'm sorry to hear this. YES - I will be praying for you and your family. Brother, please don't give up - GOD can work many things out when we pray and ask for HIS guidance and help. Maybe the delay is GOD'S will to give everyone more time to work this out. Realistically, much will depend on what you really want and GOD'S Will.

You already know that many things are easy to say but hard to do. Many of those hard to do things are well worth the effort in trying.

In the meantime - KEEP LOOKING UP!

Love In Christ,
Tom

Romans 10:8-10 NASB  But what does it say? "THE WORD IS NEAR YOU, IN YOUR MOUTH AND IN YOUR HEART"--that is, the word of faith which we are preaching, that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.

Hi Tom,

I really appreciate your prayers.  If I don't give up on the marriage, which I hadn't for the last six years, what do I do?  I'm so tired of crying.  So tired of not being good enough.  So worn out trying to mend what I broke.  It's never enough.  My life verse, I believe God gave to me, Romans 8:28,29 says that I know that all things work together for good.  To those who love God, to those who are called by Him for His purposes.  I know it's for good.  I know we're in His hands.   I know He has a plan.  What I don't know is has my wife abandoned our marraige vows and relationship because of my hurtful past.  She will not re-enter into a relationship with me till I meet hers, the books and her counselors criteria on abuse free standards.  I even asked her one time if she thought that I could live the rest of my life, from this point on, and never abuse her again.  She said yes.  It means no angry looks.  No getting upset.  No leaving the room when things are tense between us even if no one is talking.  There is a huge list of things I can't do.  If I do any of them, even to the smallest amount, I'm still abusive. 

I'm tired.  I'm loney.  I'm confused.

P.S.  I welcome anyone else input and prayers.

your brother in Christ,
Bill     

Hi Bill,

I'm sorry to say that there is no easy answer, no quick fix. Like Brother Tom said it depends on what you really want and God's will. How badly do want this, are you willing to do what it takes. Yes 6 years is a long time to battle this and I am sure that you may be growing weary of that battle. If you truly want it though and it is in God's will then you will succeed.

I wish that I could say something that could make things better but the truth of the matter is that it is in God's hands and in your actions. My heart does go out for you and your family. You all will be in my prayers.

Brother Bill,

I will definitely be praying for you. This is a complicated situation to discuss on the forum. It would be nice if you had a pastor or a Christian counselor near you who you like and trust. Much would also depend on what your wife wants and is willing to do. If both of you could get into Christian counseling together, that would really be good. If you really want to make this work, a lot of prayer would definitely be the first thing on the list.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Romans 5:3-5 NASB  And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Thanks brothers   :)  :)

love in Christ,   :)
Bill

Brother the demons inside work hard and go at it harder and harder when you get closer and closer to Christ.  But hold fast to the truth of God in that through Him all things are possible and work to the glory of God and good. 

We cannot do it alone and fellow brothers and sisters walking with you is always encouraging.  I echo the recommendations of finding a pastor in your local area to pray with.  And seek a counselor with christian foundation.  They do not have to be one in the same.  If you surround yourself with God and the Armor of God then you can feel confident in that protection.

Some of what you mentioned I would fail at.  When I got upset I walked out of the room.  Now I have learned that I let my wife know that I am getting a little upset and that I need some time and prayer.  I go out and I pray and often realize that I was at fault in what I heard or quick to judge or things of that nature.  When coming back it is a whole new perspective and we continue on.  SHe has learned to do the same.  There are times when it is best to walk away for a few moments.  Be honest...if you feel Satan working and making you something you are not then raise the red flag and sound the alarm.  Step back and pray and cast him out. 

About all I got.  Besides my prayers to you and your wife.  May God's will be done.

Thanks brother Jerry,    :)

You guys are right that I need fellowship and support in my local area.  I'm just not sure where to go for wise counsel, even from "christian" pastors or counselors.  But then it's my responsibility to take all counsel to the Lord.  Whether here online or at someones office or just visiting with friends.   :) 

I too learned not to just walk out when a heated dissagreement was taking place.  I learned to let her know that I needed a break to think things through and pray.  Only for the last 4 to 5 years we don't talk much.  We've  lived in seperate homes for the last 7 years.  So the practicing of this I don't get to do.  I've learned from God that I don't need to get upset and controlling like I used to.  He's got everything in control.  Whether it feels or looks like it or not.  He's in control.  I can rest and trust Him.   ;D  ;D   Probably the biggest impact on me since my salvation.  I can now rest.   ;D   What a weight and relief off my mind and sholders.  I thought I had to be the "strong one", "wise one", "get er done" one.  But after 16 years of marriage all I had was hurt children and an angry, bitter wife.  For the last 6 or 7 years there's been no relationship.  Just "Hi. Here's the money" or she needs the car fixed, or something in her house needs fixin.  I don't mind doing any of these things.  I love fixin things.  She just won't talk about us unless it's about how she believes I'm still abusive deep down inside.  And that's about the extent to it.  And like I said, it's been for the last 4 to 5 years. 

Thanks Jerry for you and your wife's prayers and support for my wife and I. 

your brother in Jesus,  ;D
Bill

Number of kids:  1   

Favorite colors: sky blue   
   
Favorite foods/snacks:  New York-style pizza, cheese only

Favorite verse:  Anything by Saint Paul or Saint John 
 
Ministry you are involved in: Trying to be a spiritually clean example for my child   

Man from Bible you most relate to/why: Saint Paul, because he shows just how God works through sinful men for good       

Praise God for: My healthy child