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Hi guys,

This sister in our church wants to leave and join another church. Please tell me how you would respond to her. Below are the facts.

(1) She has been attending this church for a few years now.
(2) She is in the choir, fellowship leadership among other ministries.
(3) Her main reason for changing churches is that with the new church, she can work on Sundays.
(4) Her reason is she is broke and need money, and MUST work Sunday. (btw, she owns 2 houses, drives a nice car and have at least $30,000 in her bank)
(5) We guess her actual reason is (i) to hide her past - new church won't know her past. (ii) she loves attention - new church treating her as newcomer.

I've told her changing churches is not a bad thing, however doing it for the wrong reasons is. She wants to attend a church without the responsibility. Other people have expressed disagreement to her choice, however she wouldn't listen. She has become a stumbling block for many other people.

What would you say?

First of all, welcome to C.U. my friend.

Sometimes people who have money are the ones who are deepest in debt. If she was my friend I'd stay out of her personal business unless she asked for my help.

It's ok for people to change churches. Perhaps she's not getting what she needs there, and doesn't want to hurt feelings by saying as much.

 Bottom line is, she's still going to attend church.

Hope this helps my friend.

Bronzesnake

People who are driven by money and social status, if that is truly the case, are going to do what they deem most important for themselves. You stated that she has become a stumbling block for many people. I would give her my blessings and my prayers. To do anything other than that would be putting a stumbling block in her path and creating more needless strife in the church.

MUch of this seems gossip and backbiting, Especially #4 and #5.

ollie