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I have recently rededicated my life to Christ and have been trying to live a godly life. Something has come into my life from the past that I need desperate help. Here goes........
I have a brother who is 6years younger than I and a sister who is 10years younger than I. Growing up we played doctor quite often. I say this not in my defense....I do take full blame. However; we were all young, curious, experimental AND I was STUPID. And I know one incident when it went too far....and I know that once was one too many it should never have happened. It never, ever happened again after this one time. And now this has resurfaced with my sister that she does not want me at her wedding. My brother says he has suppressed it and dealt with it in his own way. Something that my sister has not been able to and to which I fully understand. My question is being a rededicated christian how do I deal with this and with my siblings? Can God forgive me? Is repenting and saying "I'm sorry" not enough that it does not matter to God and I am doomed to hell regardless because of what I did 20years ago? I might not receive the forgiveness of my brother and sister, but can I get right with God? Is it possible? This is more important than any forgiveness from my siblings. Is there a way to get right with God and how?

To be honest with you, I have to question the legitimacy of a person who posts this kind of personal admission on a public forum. You should be taking this up with your pastor, and not a group of strangers on a web site.

I will answer your question, on the outside chance that you are being honest.

 Take all your sins to Jesus and He will forgive you. Tell your siblings that you have done this, and tell them you are heart sick and sorry, that you love them with all your power, and would never do anything to cause them any additional harm. If your sister does not want you at the wedding, then respect her wishes and do not cause a fuss over it. In time, she may or may not forgive you. If she chooses not to forgive, then she will be at odds with God, who commands us to forgive. At that point it will be out of your hands and in His.

 Go to your pastor and explain it to him. He may be able to act as an intermediary between you and your family, and in the very least, he will be able to council you far more effectively that anonymous posters on a Christian forum on such a personal matter.

Bronzesnake

On top of what BRNZ says, you need to forgive yourself. Allow God  to do his work, through you.

Resting with the Lord
Bob

Matthew 6:14  For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

Even when we repent and ask God for forgiveness, we have to remember that we will still have to face consequences of our past in the world.  

You may seek forgiveness from your family and not get it.  You could also face criminal charges depending on your age at the time.  Becoming a Christian doesn't make everything all right.  God will help you deal with your problems but they will not magically go away.  God will forgive you if you ask and you must try to understand what repentance is.   Pray about it everyday for some time and ask for guidance.  But it is important that you can go to a pastor for help.  

Forgiveness is a promise and not a suggestion. If you want to be forgiven, first forgive yourself and then others. This way you too may be forgiven of sin.

PSALMS 130 :1-5

 Out of the depths I cry to you, O LORD;

 O Lord, hear my voice.
  Let your ears be attentive
    to my cry for mercy.

  If you, O LORD, kept a record of sins,
    O Lord, who could stand?

  But with you there is forgiveness;
    therefore you are feared.

  I wait for the LORD, my soul waits,
    and in his word I put my hope.

Colossians 9:9-14

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God,  being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light.  For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Ephesians 1:7-10

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding. And he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, to be put into effect when the times will have reached their fulfillment--to bring all things in heaven and on earth together under one head, even Christ.

Magic of the mind, body and soul: Our own free will

 GOD knows the heart of every man either clean or unclean
the unclean become clean thru purer thoughts which is the way of the heart thus altering the soul. Actions cannot be erased but only left behind us. Therefore leave them where they lie in the past making way for a better future.  

In time all things can be and are accomplished thru grace and nothing else!