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  I have a question.  It's about the physical form of a person.  Is it unbiblical or a sin to not attracted or not interested in another human.  For example we are supposed to love all, but makes a wife separate?  Should her looks come into play at all?  I'm concerning my question to a woman and her looks.  When is it selfish, when is it natural and is this "natural" part the "flesh" or sin part.  I've met women who would have made great wives but I rejected them as a possibility.  I also go by the theory from the book "I kissed Dating Good Bye" which states all physical contact should be avoided when dating, outside of friends hugging or shaking hands.

I'm sorry; I'd help you, but your post is not by any stretch of the imagination comprehensible.

Perosnally, I don't think it's wrong to have some sort of physical attraction to the opposite sex. It's when the relationship in question is completely centered around the physical aspect that it becomes sinful. Or, rather, that physical attraction will lead to sin. A girl who's pretty can't help the way she looks; should she purposely make herself look ugly to avoid the physical aspect of a relationship?

You might want to ask other happily married Christian couples why they married their spouse.  Unless you live in a place where arranged marriages are the standard, you will find many interesting answers.  If you are asking me if I find my husband physically attractive and does he find me attractive, yes.  Some of my friends have different opinions about what they find attractive physically about someone.

Most of the time very attractive people marry other very attractive people.  So, someone who is not so great looking and considering going for someone very attractive, might be in for some disappointment.  Often people have a list of standards they look for in a spouse:  Christian, honest, likes children, good education/job etc.  

 There really is no such thing as love at first sight if you are asking about that.  That is just based on fantasy.  Some people even develop obsessions that can become quite dangerous.  That is just lust.  It is not based on a two way relationship.  Yes, lust is a sin.

Looks don't last anyway.  I usually tell my girl friends that they should marry a man who is bald and has a pot belly, because it will save them years of work.  Most men end up that way.  I got wrinkled and fat and my husband still loves me.  

The physical attraction part is very small.  I love my husband because he has so many great qualities in his character and personality.  We are also compatible.  We get along well and enjoy each other's company.  Our strengths and weaknesses tend to compliment each other.  If you are into courtship, you might want to read some books on it.  The idea of courtship is to end up marrying not just "dating" for fun.