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A bit of background: I gave up my career to stay home with my granddaughter 4 years ago, as I could not bear the thought of her coming to any harm in the care of strangers. I have stood by my daughter through her divorce 3 years ago, and have supported her in all ways through college which she is due to graduate from in May. She is walking outside of grace at this time, and I have watched her go from one man to another: moving each in turn in with her and then dumping them once they proposed. She is now with a 27 year old man, that cannot speak without baby talking...I just cannot stand him!!! She has moved him in and since he recently lost his job, has started leaving the baby home with him. I cannot tell you why, but I have a gut feeling that this guy is not what he lets on to be. My daughter dropped a bombshell on me a couple weeks ago by telling me that she is now trying to become pregnant with this guy!!!! They have no plans of marriage, as they say they will just depend on Medicaid to pay for any babies they want to have!!! I cannot beleive my daughter has lost her mind like this.
Please help me to know if I should risk alienating her by speaking to her about him, and PLEASE PRAY for her!!! Her name is Tiffany.
I welcome wise counsel on this matter ASAP!!!!!

Oh!  :'( I'll pray!

I hope that you will talk to her about this. She needs your love and acceptance, but she needs the truth just as badly.

I agree with willow. If you say nothing you are almost guilty yourself.

I was dating a guy that wasn't good for me.  He was controlling and looking back, probably wasn't really a Christian.  He had lied to me about so many things, and I compromised so much.  My parents said nothing but good things about him, they seemed very approving.  I was thinking and thinking for months about breaking up with him.  I thought maybe it would work out, or this or that.  I had already gone too far with him physically (not sex but almost) and the relationship really hurt me spiritually.  I wrestled with the idea of breaking up for months, but I wasn't sure if it was right.  Not to mention I was afraid because we worked together.  He knew all my secrets and fears, and I knew he'd betray them in his anger.  I finally did break up with him though.  Afterwards, my parents boasted to their friends that they had prayed so long and hard that we would break up, and how they thought he was bad for me.  I was so angry with them.  I realized that I often don't like what they say and don't always take their advice, but I felt like they were obligated to say something to me anyway as my parents.  Honestly, despite my typical opposition to them, if they had said what they felt that would have been all I would have needed to get it over with.  TALK TO HER.  It doesn't sound like she's anything like me, I know, but say something.  Please.

I will pray for your daughter and for you.  I pray that you will have boldness and courage, and that you would communicate Jesus' and your unconditional love for her.  I pray that she will listen and be wise.  Blessed is he who turns a man from the error of his way!!  

  hi there "LennyToo"  i see you havent posted anything more on this thread, was wondering how things have transpired? I do hope and pray that you were able to get thru to her and that things are going good now that 3 or so months have gone by.
With thoughts and prayer
Tigerlily

I will pray for your daughter and granddaughter and you.  

Maybe you can offer to babysit your granddaughter so you can have a good influence on her.   As long as this man is not abusing your daughter, granddaugther or you, what's the point of criticizing him?  You will only alienate yourself from your daughter and granddaughter.  

You are criticizing this man for using baby talk?  (must be more to it that you can't tell us)  If baby talk is just his way of being affectionate, what is wrong with that?  You might mention that a four-yr old needs to hear grown-up talk to learn to speak properly.   Some women don't seem to mind that they are the bread-winners and their man stays home.