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 :'(   We are approved to adopt. We found siblings (8 &10,girl and boy) in another state. We were sooooo excited, but the next day an aunt said that she wanted the children (this was after they had multiple court hearings during the past two years!!) We were very disappointed, to say the least.  We know that God works for our good, and we are trusting him.  Are there any brothers or sisters reading this who are adoption workers??!!  We know that the system is layered with "procedure" and we are seeking an advocate.  Please respond if you know of any Christian connections for U.S. adoption of older children. Thanks, and God bless you.

That's wonderful you are so eager to adopt, mystlo.

I've only heard reservations about adoption of older children.  Of course, they need help too!

But if they have an aunt 'eager' to help them(you can only hope that is really the case), that would definitely seem to be preferred - unless perhaps the kids already know you somewhat and seem to prefer you over the aunt.

Relatives of mine adopted a 5-year-old.  And that was considered old, at least as I recall.  But no one else wanted him, largely for that reason, I think, his age.  He's turned out like any other human being - has his good points, and his bad.
The parents and the family had a time of it, though, as I understand it, tho they all survived it.

Part of it was, in my opinion, even at age five, a 'background' had already formed, and came with him.  

Once an imprint forms in a child, I don't know of any way to 'convert' or change that - the child's deep allegiance will always be with that - or at least in battle with - that original imprint.

It's not impossible, and if you have all your other ducks in a row, especially a firm command in your own marriage and of any existing family, and of course especially a blessed daily walk with Jesus, then I suppose it can work...